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by rlfroo
Fri Nov 09, 2007 7:03 am
Forum: CPS Investigations
Topic: Neglect in foster care
Replies: 7
Views: 614

I understand where you are coming from as toothbrushing is a pet peeve of mine. I am a foster mom and I have seen this many times with foster parents. Some just don't care. When a parent does call the social worker the social workers do say the parents are nit picking. It is like a catch 22. My sugg...
by rlfroo
Fri Jul 13, 2007 11:04 pm
Forum: Round Table
Topic: Even our pediatritian has issues with CPS
Replies: 4
Views: 402

Thank you for your response Dazeemay. I think it is sick about the money. You are right that some foods can cause a positive tox screen, but from my experience it is rare. I used to be the person in charge of work related drug screens. Most of the children that come into my care that are drug expose...
by rlfroo
Fri Jul 13, 2007 10:11 pm
Forum: Round Table
Topic: Even our pediatritian has issues with CPS
Replies: 4
Views: 402

Even our pediatritian has issues with CPS

I took my little ones to get their shots today. I had a long conversation with their pediatritian about foster care and DCFS. He was telling me that he has had children come into his office severly beaten and bruised or neglected he calls CPS and they do nothing. One the other hand he has a woman wh...
by rlfroo
Wed Jun 13, 2007 6:02 am
Forum: Round Table
Topic: True story re/foster parents
Replies: 6
Views: 564

I am a foster mom and I think it is appalling that anyone would remove a child on thier 18th birthday. I am in California and there are so many programs that help the teens that are getting close to turning 18. Here they get so many grants and scholarships, get put up in appartments and get so much ...
by rlfroo
Thu Jun 07, 2007 5:45 am
Forum: CPS Investigations
Topic: Court- working towards reunification
Replies: 3
Views: 466

Stitch, I have a web site for you to help you with your home organization. http://WWW.flylady.net. I have shared this with many parents and I can't tell you how much it has helped them. I wish you the best in all of this. It sounds like you are doing everything you can to get your kids back, you wil...
by rlfroo
Tue May 22, 2007 7:54 am
Forum: Round Table
Topic: TPR & relinquishing rights
Replies: 12
Views: 1001

I have never heard of this myself and I have been a foster mom for several years. Once a child is adopted the adoptive parents legally become the parent and it is their choice if they want contact with the biological family or not. In some cases this is good other cases it is not. If violence is an ...
by rlfroo
Fri May 11, 2007 9:22 am
Forum: CPS Investigations
Topic: What is a permanency planning team staffing meeting?
Replies: 19
Views: 1462

That is great that they are taking all their tests and they are coming out clean. That will be of great help to them in court. In my experience with SS, it is rare that I ever get an infant with just exposure to marajuana. I usually take the ones that are addicted to meth, heroine or cocaine. Mariju...
by rlfroo
Fri May 11, 2007 5:30 am
Forum: CPS Investigations
Topic: What is a permanency planning team staffing meeting?
Replies: 19
Views: 1462

Diando, In my state, parents that give birth to children and both parent and child are positive for any drugs, they "fast Track" them. This means that the birth parents really only have 6 months to do what the court is asking. I am concerned that you said your daughter has passed "several" ua's, vs....
by rlfroo
Fri Apr 20, 2007 6:45 am
Forum: CPS Investigations
Topic: To be on the safe side...
Replies: 7
Views: 688

If you go to Target they have a package of 6 door alarms for about $10.00. I think they are made by Black and Decker. You can set it to make a very nice chime vs. a loud alarm. I have these installed on several of my doors. It really helps kids running out the door without you noticing. It is very c...
by rlfroo
Wed Apr 11, 2007 5:42 pm
Forum: Round Table
Topic: BEWARE OF FAKE SOCIAL WORKERS
Replies: 4
Views: 423

Great information for all parents. I am a foster mom and where I live they drive their own cars, most of them do wear jeans. I had one wear short/short jogging shorts, a tank top and sneakers on a hot day. If I would have not met her before this visit I would have turned her away. I called her super...
by rlfroo
Fri Mar 30, 2007 5:25 am
Forum: CPS Investigations
Topic: Finding a lawyer
Replies: 5
Views: 517

Desert, I had to get a lawyer for a private case a few years back and what I did, is go down to the court house and I asked the attorneys themselfs who would the fear going up against the most. Everyone had the same answer. I found out where the judges hung out at a local coffee shop and one morning...
by rlfroo
Tue Mar 27, 2007 5:30 am
Forum: In the News
Topic: Jury awards mom $4.9 million by OC Department of Social Serv
Replies: 4
Views: 473

Jury awards mom $4.9 million by OC Department of Social Serv

Jury awards mom $4.9 million Seal Beach woman said her children were improperly taken away from her by OC Department of Social Services By LARRY WELBORN The Orange County Register A civil jury has awarded $4.9 million to a Seal Beach woman who claimed that the Orange County Department of Social Serv...
by rlfroo
Mon Mar 19, 2007 8:37 pm
Forum: Newcomers - Welcome to the site - please sign in here
Topic: hello
Replies: 2
Views: 385

Motherof3. just to let you know I am a foster mom. What your child said could be true and it could not be true. Honestly I doubt if CPS would do anything about. I had one child tell her parents that I never feed her. I had to laugh when the social worker told me this as at my house we have set meal ...
by rlfroo
Wed Feb 28, 2007 6:11 am
Forum: Round Table
Topic: wondering what happens when you appeal
Replies: 20
Views: 1355

Thanks for all the information. Good Dad that is what the Social worker told me, but you know what that is sometimes worth, lol!
by rlfroo
Tue Feb 27, 2007 11:42 am
Forum: Round Table
Topic: wondering what happens when you appeal
Replies: 20
Views: 1355

Good Dad, Does that mean that they can't file a change of circumstance at this hearing/Trial? That is new to me. One on of the cases I worked with a long time ago, the reason the Birth parents gave was that the child was an American Indian. They were told to bring proof of that into the court. NOw t...
by rlfroo
Tue Feb 27, 2007 8:47 am
Forum: In the News
Topic: Unusual situation advice needed
Replies: 1
Views: 231

Unusual situation advice needed

I have a senario I would like some input on. A good freind of mine has had a child in guardianship for over 8 years. The birth mother gavethis child to them when the child was was an infant. She visited a few times in the first year but then disappeard. The guardians, because of the extreeme cost ha...
by rlfroo
Tue Feb 27, 2007 8:18 am
Forum: In the News
Topic: Obseity Child Case- UK
Replies: 5
Views: 476

Not to argue with anyone but I think this is very bad parenting. I do agree that he should not be put into foster care or removed from his family, but his family needs help. The mother needs help as she is getting love from this child by feeding him. I am assuming she thinks that by giving him what ...
by rlfroo
Tue Feb 27, 2007 8:10 am
Forum: Round Table
Topic: wondering what happens when you appeal
Replies: 20
Views: 1355

I am also in California. From what I understand is that a neutral judge that does not know about the case reviews the case and listens to testimony and then makes the decision if the first judgement was valid or not. From what I hear is that only 1% of the cases of appeal ever get over-turned. And o...
by rlfroo
Wed Feb 21, 2007 7:47 am
Forum: Round Table
Topic: What would you do?
Replies: 3
Views: 401

This is so sad, but not uncommon. Children learn how to work the system from other kids in the system. They learn quickly what triggers SW's, Parents, etc. It is all so sad really. They know all the buzz words that will get them what they want. Teenagers by nature can be very manipulative and they h...
by rlfroo
Wed Feb 21, 2007 6:44 am
Forum: Round Table
Topic: Four tips for cleaning up your home
Replies: 16
Views: 1201

All of you make wonderful points. There is a way to declutter your home in 15 min per day. The web site is http://www.flylady.net. She is awesome. I have shared this website with many of my parents who are/were organizationaly challanged. [www.flylady.net] This web site helps keep me organized and I...
by rlfroo
Tue Feb 20, 2007 9:00 am
Forum: Round Table
Topic: TPR & relinquishing rights
Replies: 12
Views: 1001

Cookie, I will give my perspective from a foster mom who has adopted. I have adopted both ways, reliquishment, and also a TPR. With the parent that reliquished we keep contact. I speak to her every few months and send pictures all the time. On the TPR, it got quite ugly and the parent became violent...
by rlfroo
Tue Feb 13, 2007 8:30 pm
Forum: Newcomers - Welcome to the site - please sign in here
Topic: How could this happen?
Replies: 15
Views: 1191

Spike, so sorry that this has happened to you. My first question to you is did the day care fill out an ouch report? In my state anytime a child gets a cut, bite, scrape, etc. they must fill out some type of incident report. Those will help you in court. I also concur with the others get an attorney...
by rlfroo
Sun Feb 04, 2007 12:02 am
Forum: Round Table
Topic: Propganda Ad Wars- False Advertising from CPS
Replies: 2
Views: 296

Frustrated, I can understand your frustration. I am a foster parent. I understand in advertising you always have to put your best forward or what is the point. I also know that there is such a shortage of good foster homes. I recently moved to a new area and personally I am appalled with the quality...
by rlfroo
Sat Feb 03, 2007 11:49 pm
Forum: CPS Investigations
Topic: My story - 17 and scared
Replies: 5
Views: 543

Flame, Do you have any close relatives that could take you and your brother in until all of this blowes over? That may be an option if you should suggest it to a social worker. I am a foster mom and If I can see families stay together that is the best thing. People with bi-polar disorder can take a ...
by rlfroo
Mon Jan 29, 2007 8:49 am
Forum: CPS Investigations
Topic: Help! Case Closed - Transfer of Custody completed - MN
Replies: 7
Views: 610

Frustrated, Foster parents do not get as much information as you think. I am one and know from personal experience. We do know when the next court proceeding is, usually. The courts send us a form letting us know if the child needs to be there or not and also to provide them information about the ch...

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