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- Wed Aug 13, 2008 7:51 pm
- Forum: Round Table
- Topic: am i ever going to be happy again?
- Replies: 3
- Views: 952
Wow, my first hope is that you and your daughter are seeing a counselor or psychologist, as you have both been through so much. Your situation is so sad, as you were just a single mom, trying to do your best. :cry: You needed a referrel to a counselor, or simply an ear to listen, not CPS. When my ex...
- Wed Jul 30, 2008 1:26 pm
- Forum: Round Table
- Topic: Ruined Relationship With 7 year old
- Replies: 12
- Views: 2306
This didn't happen to me, but my boyfriend felt like this with my daughter. He was the center of the false accusations, and she was the accuser. She was only 3 at the time, and definitely coerced by social services. Some of the things they had her saying, I KNOW she wouldn't say, but they didn't und...
- Sat Jul 12, 2008 7:55 pm
- Forum: Round Table
- Topic: No happy end for us
- Replies: 10
- Views: 2136
Thanks. Well I did move out, we are no longer together. Our once happy family is broke apart. I told my boyfriend that if we are apart, they win, and he just says, well, they did win. He says because I did have suspicions in the beginning, he can't forget that, and is afraid. He just want it to be h...
- Sun Jun 29, 2008 1:59 pm
- Forum: Round Table
- Topic: No happy end for us
- Replies: 10
- Views: 2136
No happy end for us
I've been here for almost a year, our case is over and done with, but we are financially ruined. We still have caseworkers that have to come to our house, and now we're afraid our kids will get taken for completely different reasons. We can't afford to pay any of our bills due to paying for lawyers,...
- Sat May 24, 2008 9:29 am
- Forum: CPS Investigations
- Topic: I filed the report and now being punished
- Replies: 1
- Views: 639
I always thought that too, now I don't have ANY faith is the DSS/CPS system. And I used to work for DSS! I asked for counseling for my daughter, and was told I couldn't find a psychologist on my own, and it had to be a service through them. I called DAILY, telling them that my daughter was having a ...
- Fri May 23, 2008 8:48 pm
- Forum: Round Table
- Topic: Lawsuit
- Replies: 3
- Views: 839
Lawsuit
Has anyone here attempted to file a lawsuit against CPS/DSS. Our whole case was a completely mess. One of the investigators was fired shortly after our cased was closed, in fact. They withheld evidence to my fiance's lawyer, and did everything they could to build a case against my fiance. He was in ...
- Fri May 23, 2008 8:34 pm
- Forum: CPS Investigations
- Topic: Trial date extended-anyone else go to trial?
- Replies: 1
- Views: 613
I haven't been here for awhile, but this is pretty common. At almost every trial date, we got the whole, the DSS attorney needed more time to prepare. My fiance did not agree to any services, and they finally dropped our case because they had nothing. But they were on the verge of having it dropped ...
- Tue Feb 19, 2008 6:27 am
- Forum: Happy Endings
- Topic: Finally, our saga is over!
- Replies: 3
- Views: 1889
Ours has been over since the 6th, and I still have that looming feeling, like they're waiting for something else to happen. I know we are good parents, we work hard for our family, we are stable people, but it does make you question yourself. Didn't help that the caseworker said, if this happens aga...
- Sat Feb 16, 2008 2:13 pm
- Forum: CPS Investigations
- Topic: any advice?
- Replies: 6
- Views: 1373
Ours was a sexual abuse issue too. I was also told I had to believe my boyfriend was guilty, or else it makes me look like I don't care about my DD. So I took the position of wanting the TRUTH, since I didn't feel like I was getting that. The investigation was flawed, and they were withholding evide...
- Wed Feb 13, 2008 9:07 am
- Forum: Happy Endings
- Topic: It's officially over!
- Replies: 3
- Views: 1050
Well, the exMIL's petition is completely seperate from anything having to do with CPS, it's just through the courts. She has nothing to back up the lies though. I won't even go into it, as it's pretty ridiculous the things she is saying. I am a little scared though, because the judge is giving her w...
- Tue Feb 12, 2008 6:27 pm
- Forum: CPS Investigations
- Topic: I thoiught attorneys were supposed to help you
- Replies: 8
- Views: 1682
My boyfriend had three things on his side when this started. One, a good attorney. And an attorney he already knew, who knew what CPS/DSS was saying was ridiculous, he knew he was a good dad. Second, the law guardian we had met with a few weeks before the DSS/CPS investigation began when he petition...
- Tue Feb 12, 2008 6:11 pm
- Forum: Happy Endings
- Topic: It's officially over!
- Replies: 3
- Views: 1050
It's officially over!
My lawyer called me yesterday, telling me that the abuse/neglect case was definitely closed, that he talked to the judge's secretary. Later that day I got the paper work signed by the judge, allowing DSS to withdraw the abuse/neglect petition. And today the caseworker called me, and told me it was o...
- Fri Feb 01, 2008 7:28 pm
- Forum: CPS Investigations
- Topic: I need help re: mentally ill daughter in slo county
- Replies: 2
- Views: 838
You can't cause bipolar disorder, unless of course you get technical, and then biology can cause the disorder. Therfore, you can cause it by being her mother, or having her with a man with the disorder. It's pretty common in families. If your daughter is doing better outside of your home, it's not b...
- Sat Jan 26, 2008 10:40 am
- Forum: CPS Investigations
- Topic: Motion to dismiss
- Replies: 5
- Views: 1267
DSS/CPS is not looking into it. And the expert witness we had just hired told us that it was unlikely that we'll ever know if it really was my dad who abused her, because of how flawed the investigation was. He should have been a suspect from the start, because him and my mom babysat my daughter onl...
- Fri Jan 25, 2008 8:32 pm
- Forum: CPS Investigations
- Topic: Motion to dismiss
- Replies: 5
- Views: 1267
I posted in happy endings, but they did dismiss it. DSS withdrew their petition this morning, and my boyfriend should have the kids back by this time next week. Our family can spend time together as a family for the first time since this started in september. I won't believe it until I see it, but I...
- Fri Jan 25, 2008 8:16 pm
- Forum: CPS Investigations
- Topic: They've reopened the case
- Replies: 4
- Views: 938
Here's a couple of things we did, DSS just withdrew their petition, and our case should be closed next week, DSS's case against my boyfriend, and CPS's case. They told me I wasn't allowed to talk to my boyfriend, and my attorney told me that they could hold it against me if I did, even take my daugh...
- Fri Jan 25, 2008 7:41 pm
- Forum: Happy Endings
- Topic: I think it's over ?
- Replies: 2
- Views: 811
Nope, that was me, and no, they never went forward with investigating my dad. I kind of still hope they might, but I think the ship has sailed because at this point, the expert witness we hired doesn't think there's any way we'd ever know if she was abused or not because of how flawed their investig...
- Fri Jan 25, 2008 3:55 pm
- Forum: Happy Endings
- Topic: I think it's over ?
- Replies: 2
- Views: 811
I think it's over ?
Our story began on September 11, 2007, and will be offically over by this time next week. My daughter made an allegation of my boyfriend sexuall abusing her. At first, she said exactly what happened, that she walked in on him going to the bathroom. But days later, she said, and when he peed, I ate h...
- Fri Jan 25, 2008 3:39 pm
- Forum: Round Table
- Topic: People don't believe me
- Replies: 5
- Views: 1223
I agree that something needs to change. We just found out that DSS petitioned the courts today to drop the case against my boyfriend. He said he should be happy, but instead he feels angry and cheated. He could have his kids back as early as next week, but he feels that he missed out on the past cou...
- Thu Jan 24, 2008 4:51 pm
- Forum: Round Table
- Topic: People don't believe me
- Replies: 5
- Views: 1223
People don't believe me
Most of the time, when I tell my story to average people, they don't believe that CPS could possibly go after a family who did nothing. They think if CPS has removed children, and have made accusations, it must be true. My boyfriend and I are both educated people, we have college educations, we have...
- Tue Jan 22, 2008 11:55 am
- Forum: CPS Investigations
- Topic: Motion to dismiss
- Replies: 5
- Views: 1267
Motion to dismiss
How do these usually go? Are they often successful. We have a trial set 2 months away, and my boyfriend's lawyer just sent a motion to dismiss the case to the judge based on DSS violating the court order for the 3rd time. They failed to finish the interview and sexual abuse evaluation with my daught...
- Mon Jan 14, 2008 2:11 pm
- Forum: CPS Investigations
- Topic: Why don't I have any hope?
- Replies: 1
- Views: 549
Why don't I have any hope?
I don't have any hope that my boyfriend will be found not guilty on charges of abuse/neglect/sexual abuse. We have a meeting next week with our lawyers to figure out what kind of defense we are going to have, along with the evidence I have against DSS. Basically, when this all started, I believed th...
- Fri Jan 11, 2008 4:59 pm
- Forum: CPS Investigations
- Topic: well its been 3 yrs. 1 month
- Replies: 31
- Views: 4922
My only issue is, I work with children. I won't say my profession, I don't want to give too many personal details, but I work with children and their families on a regular basis. If any parent found out that my personal life was less than perfect, complaints would start coming in, concerns, and then...
- Sun Jan 06, 2008 1:21 pm
- Forum: CPS Investigations
- Topic: well its been 3 yrs. 1 month
- Replies: 31
- Views: 4922
Do you think more people don't come forward when they go through this because of the SHAME associated with it. Even when people ask me what is going on, I don't say a word for fear that people will think I am a horrible mother, that we are an abusive, horrible family. I mean, who else has CPS invest...
- Tue Jan 01, 2008 10:19 am
- Forum: CPS Investigations
- Topic: tnradmom's foster child missing
- Replies: 8
- Views: 1704
I was told in 90% of cases, they don't have any proof of abuse occurring. That means 90% of cases, what they say happened, may not have? And this came right from a caseworker's mouth. But they live with the belief that children do not lie, and children don't make things up. If the child said it, no ...