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I belive it is different from state to state. In California, you can have a day care lic. for up to 8 but that number can go down if you have a certain amount of infants. You can get a lic. for 14 but there has to be another fingerprinted adult when you hit 9 kids at one time. Foster care- In certai...

In my state they can not put children on such medication without a court order. I would ask the children's attorney. Also children when they are in a depressed state can act like zombies. It is a self protection device that is just buit into them. They can pretty much remove themselves of all feelin...

Please educate me. Has there been a problem in the past with false positives on these tests? I thought if you tell the truth, it shows that. I was kind of shocked when I saw someone post a web page that tells you how to beat these tests. Should someone who is innocent worry about a false positive? I...

I so agree with you Florida. But in some cases it would not be such a good idea to just give the family the money. In my case my parents have all been drug addicts. I don't think it would be a good idea to give them money to further support their habits. Where I am located there are several wonderfu...

From my understanding here in CA all children that are in the foster system are "special needs". They have been taken from their families and that in itself is extreemly tramatic and does horrible things to your mind. Not only is AAP offered to each family adopting the child will also recieve Medi-c...

First off I want to apologize to all of you parents that have had bad experiences with foster parents. I am a foster parent and I believe because I proudly hold that title that I should be more accountable as a parent than anyone else. It sickens me that children who are removed from their families,...

I also am a foster adopt mom. I found your letter to be beautiful and it touched my heart deeply. The greatest gift you could give me if I was the foster parent in your case would be to send a card stating your feelings and periodically send pictures. I love it when I get to see how the kids have gr...

From my understanding if it is drug related they can take the baby away. If they took the other children away for severe abuse or neglect they could also take the child away because if she could not take care of the others what would make anyone think she could care for an infant? It is really hard ...

I am so exited to report that both of my foster placements will be returning to thier families within a week. This so overjoy's me when this happens. I just got off the phone with one of my "bio's" and she was actually shocked that a foster mom would call her to wish her well. She is going into reha...

I think your children are right to tell you not to take anymore pictures as they will get into trouble. My worry is two fold, are the kids going to tell the social worker how uncomfortable that they were when you took these photos apparently without permissioin of your ex? That won't look good on yo...

Thanks Moonmom. I actually did the visit today, and had the opportunity to meet the 3 year olds family. I think they are more comfortable now that they have had the chance to meet with me. I did share how important it was for them to be at all the visits. They promised they would and they were havin...

Thanks for your response. Yes on the infant I actually monitor the visitation, and I have told them with infants they have such a limited time to get their stuff done. I also told them it looks horrible not to show up for a visit. I hear I know I know but this is so hard. I think they have given up ...

I am a foster mom and I have posted here a few times before. I currently have two children in my home. Both drug related cases. I admire all of you here that are fighting to get your kids back, I am proud that you do this. The two I have are from different families. Neither one of these families vis...

From a FP view... TDM can be a very good thing. Where I live we do them and it helps keep the children home vs going into a foster home. As FP we are required to attend these if we have a child in our home. For me it gave me an opportunity to spend time with the parents and share not only my concern...

I am also in Ca. 1. Can they take a foster child out of foster care if they do a hair folical test and it's positive for marijuana? Yes they can but I have never heard of CPS doing a hair folical test on a foster parent. It is just too expensive, and I have heard on a rare occassion that they have d...

I am a foster parent and I have to agree that many foster parents treat the foster children different from their own children. I believe this is wrong. Every child deserves to be hugged kissed and loved no matter what. If a child is not nurtured and loved problems can/do arise. Some keep thier dista...

From a foster parents perspective.... I had a few opportunities to work with CASA's. I never had a good experience working with them. I found them to be very controling and having their own agenda. I also found them to to not to follow basic disipline principles. One example, I had a teenager (once)...

Anxious you are off to a wonderful start. I would like to recommend a web site for you that will help you in the maintenance of your home. http://www.flylady.net. She helps you set daily routines and helps you declutter your home. Follow the babysteps section in the begining and you will do just fin...

It is so odd that some people are effected by certain things and others are not. In the 50's you never heard about FAS and all the mommies drank and smoked. Now you can't eat anything, drink anything and autisim is running rampent in this country. It just does not make sense. Momoffor, you are right...

In CA, if the baby was found not to be your son's you would probably still get placement under the NREFM rule. (non-relative-extended-family-member). They try really hard to keep siblings together, full, 1/2 etc. You will have your hands full if the baby is born addicted to meth. But my worst worry ...

I agree partially with Greegor. Do not say anything to CPS giving them any idea that you would give the kids back if you thought they stopped using. Do not say until they get off drugs or anything. I have had a couple of cases where relatives said these things and the children were pulled from the r...

I am in California and if you know what county/city the child is in that will help alot. As a foster parent I have seen many times when a family is not notified. So when they call months after the child has already been in the system, the courts say too late. If she is not in the system right now th...

I came to this board as a Foster Parent trying to get a better perspective of birth parents and what they go through. Honestly I was shocked and many of things that I have read here. I knew stuff went on but never to to this level. But thanks to this board I have a much better understanding. I mysel...

Marina, Wonderful link thanks so much. I typed in education Neglect for my state and this is what I got. Inattention to special education need—refusal to allow or failure to obtain recommended remedial education services or neglect in obtaining or following through with treatment for a child's diagn...

Donita wrote: Don't worry, it has been made very clear to me that my opinions have little to no merit when it comes to raising my own children Yes I do worry! Your opinions should matter, always. I sit hear and read some of these posts and they just turn my stomache. Maybe this is why I do mostly th...