Very complicated case but have a few questions that I think
Posted: Sun Jul 03, 2005 6:55 am
many of you might have answers to. We had our son removed almost 3 months ago and have gone to court about 4 times with little or no progress....... I miss him so but here are my questions......
1. Must you start there Unified Family Plan before a judge even rules on the case? We went to the team meeting and agreed to do so but now they keep adding or changing things around making it look like we don't want to work with them to the judge? I even hired a Family Counselor had 10 sessions and my case worker said she was ok'd by CPS, but in court sat there and said she told me that was not so and we had to see their counselor, so there went not only a waste of good therpy but lose of time with our son cause court was extened for two more weeks. SO my main question is DO you have to start that plan before the judge signs it. Cause everytime we do something on it they find fault in it?
2. Does the Judge have to read all the Discoverys? IF so How can we summit our own? Does he have to make findings on them? You know I have a laywer but I seem to be getting no where but $10,000. less money in our family nest account
3. What happen with our case was my husband was on Felony probation so low and be hold I had no clue they could just come in my house at any time and search. Well, they did just that and found paraphernalia and accussed me of being high, and asked where all the drugs were? I said we don't keep drugs in my house with the baby 3 1/2 yr old, around they asked why I had item in my possission and told me if I told the truth that they would just site me and leave, which I did, I said my son was away for two day with his nana and my husband was also away so a girlfriend came over and we partied a little but that it made me feel sick cause of all my medications and I went to be by 11:00 the night before and right before they came in I was getting ready to leave and I was going to throw that out in the garabe, well, they got real mean even though they did clear it that the baby was not there, I know now that it is not ok and would pray to god never to make this wrong decession again, anyway they searched my house for 31/2 full on body searched me. But prior to all this I tried to explain to them that it was just in my hand when they rang the door along with my purse and other items ready to go before the door rang and my son answered it and I put my stuff on my bed to see who it was and I laid it down where my son could reach it so it they charged me with child endangerment, paraphernalia and under the influene, I must tell you I am on a lot 8 to be exact phyic meds and I tried to expain to them that why would I be so careless about that but yet keep all my meds in a lock box. No Excuses I was in the wrong but I was not under the influence at the time so I felt there was no need to take my son and arrest me but they did but at the time CPS came my son who has never been in anyones care but our or his NA-NA's he's never even had a babysitter, so I asked her begged her to call my husband and she said no because even if I do he would most likley get arrested to so what was the use? Was it his right to make that decision to come home to see? THen I asked if he could go to his Nana's and she said no he has to go into a receiving home? Now on my charges they say I had no one to take care of him at the time of my arrest. How can that be?
Another question they could not prove any findings of allegetions made on my husband so should he be able to go and get our child, I am even offering to move out of the family unit until I seek there treatment plan, but know they are being my mental illness in stating it renders me in capible of taking care of my child, I have been with my docotor for 3 years he is well aware of me having a 3 year old and he would not put me on medications that would intefer with me caring for my child. They also so I have not been med compiant and that is nothing futher from the truth, my doctor will not continue to see a patient if they miss appoints. or are non med compliant due to liabilty for him. Sorry for the long winded message that is only a quarter of it but I need those few questions answered Help please I miss my baby so much and he has changed for being so happy and carefree to being so quite and scared all becuase of me why are they punshing him, and not me, for god sake please help
1. Must you start there Unified Family Plan before a judge even rules on the case? We went to the team meeting and agreed to do so but now they keep adding or changing things around making it look like we don't want to work with them to the judge? I even hired a Family Counselor had 10 sessions and my case worker said she was ok'd by CPS, but in court sat there and said she told me that was not so and we had to see their counselor, so there went not only a waste of good therpy but lose of time with our son cause court was extened for two more weeks. SO my main question is DO you have to start that plan before the judge signs it. Cause everytime we do something on it they find fault in it?
2. Does the Judge have to read all the Discoverys? IF so How can we summit our own? Does he have to make findings on them? You know I have a laywer but I seem to be getting no where but $10,000. less money in our family nest account
3. What happen with our case was my husband was on Felony probation so low and be hold I had no clue they could just come in my house at any time and search. Well, they did just that and found paraphernalia and accussed me of being high, and asked where all the drugs were? I said we don't keep drugs in my house with the baby 3 1/2 yr old, around they asked why I had item in my possission and told me if I told the truth that they would just site me and leave, which I did, I said my son was away for two day with his nana and my husband was also away so a girlfriend came over and we partied a little but that it made me feel sick cause of all my medications and I went to be by 11:00 the night before and right before they came in I was getting ready to leave and I was going to throw that out in the garabe, well, they got real mean even though they did clear it that the baby was not there, I know now that it is not ok and would pray to god never to make this wrong decession again, anyway they searched my house for 31/2 full on body searched me. But prior to all this I tried to explain to them that it was just in my hand when they rang the door along with my purse and other items ready to go before the door rang and my son answered it and I put my stuff on my bed to see who it was and I laid it down where my son could reach it so it they charged me with child endangerment, paraphernalia and under the influene, I must tell you I am on a lot 8 to be exact phyic meds and I tried to expain to them that why would I be so careless about that but yet keep all my meds in a lock box. No Excuses I was in the wrong but I was not under the influence at the time so I felt there was no need to take my son and arrest me but they did but at the time CPS came my son who has never been in anyones care but our or his NA-NA's he's never even had a babysitter, so I asked her begged her to call my husband and she said no because even if I do he would most likley get arrested to so what was the use? Was it his right to make that decision to come home to see? THen I asked if he could go to his Nana's and she said no he has to go into a receiving home? Now on my charges they say I had no one to take care of him at the time of my arrest. How can that be?
Another question they could not prove any findings of allegetions made on my husband so should he be able to go and get our child, I am even offering to move out of the family unit until I seek there treatment plan, but know they are being my mental illness in stating it renders me in capible of taking care of my child, I have been with my docotor for 3 years he is well aware of me having a 3 year old and he would not put me on medications that would intefer with me caring for my child. They also so I have not been med compiant and that is nothing futher from the truth, my doctor will not continue to see a patient if they miss appoints. or are non med compliant due to liabilty for him. Sorry for the long winded message that is only a quarter of it but I need those few questions answered Help please I miss my baby so much and he has changed for being so happy and carefree to being so quite and scared all becuase of me why are they punshing him, and not me, for god sake please help