Hey everyone. My Wife told me of this post. I don't post as often anymore for some reasons not related to this board, like my vision is now gone in my right eye and it's stressfull to look at the comp screen for a longish period of time.
But I am not here for a pity post lol. Just giving heads up on what's going on.
Before this incident at the school, me and my wife had a meeting with the teacher and principle. This is a meeting I called, to share information, dicuss our daughter's disability at length.
Now, I am a previous level 2 Mental Health Tech, from 1993 to 1998 before I switched careers. In talking with patients who have a pscychosis, nuerosis or normal mental processes, I know the body language, the facial movements that range from an outright lie to telling total truth.
It's the same process used by the FBI and CIA. very hard to fool, and the person abserving has to be accurate in the assesment.
I didn't make an active measure to look for such things in this meeting. It all stood out plain as day. It went sour fast, with a dominating Principle, a holier than thou Teacher, a Teacher's Aid who couldn't believe what she was hearing from her two colleagues but didn't say a dang thing because she was after all, in the presence of her bosses who can fire her in a flash. The aides are not Union, after all.
That was a setting for disaster, and I believe the only way I could have gotten fair treatment, eye contact when spoken too, and got listened too without them talking to each other while I was speaking kindly and asking questions to which got vague answers, I would have had to been Jesus Christ himself.
Forgive my blasphemy please, it's not intended as such with negativism, but in their expectations I would have had to been perfect in giving them what they wanted to hear. Like that I was wrong and lesser than them and they were always right. I was told how many potty training classes they took. I was informed how special the program was, and how many years the teachers trained for it. I was told. Never once did they consider anything I had to say or ask. I told my wife as we were leaving the meeting, in a normal tone, "Honey, I didn't like the way they ignored me when I asked them questions." At that time, about 20 feet behind me, I heard the Principle call out to me, "What did you say to me?"
I explained I was talking with my wife. We were after all, in the parking lot. Heading away. A good distance away. She laughed when I told her I had addressed my wife as "Honey," and she said she answers to that a lot. Her laugh was forced, clearly agitated. I waited until we got to the car with windows up and on the road home before I told my wife what I couldn't help but notice.
Their body language was defensive while speaking at us, not with us, and changed their affect (facial features) to an apathy based expression when talking to each other when the parents were trying to ask questions. Non hostile, easy and calm questions. The Principle eventually got on my nerves with this, then avoided eye contact the entire time when I was trying to compare notes about potty training. I didn't lose my temper, but I did return a mild reproach, to show that I didn't care for the ugly treatment. On my way home, I told my wife, "We got to either get her outta this school or us outta this state." I knew then they are doing their best to set us up.
That was before I went to check my daughter out early, because I wouldn't make it home in time to get her off the bus as my Mom was seeing a cardiologist and I was her driver.
On Firday, when I got my Daughter off the bus, the driver told me she heard the teacher telling mt Daughter who doesn't speak to tell her parents to "Please give me a bath this weekend." This very last Friday. I assured the bus driver my Daughter's Hygiene was excellent as she gets showers. I had to assure the
bus driver. And nowhere in her notebook, which the teacher writes in daily, was anything about her hygiene at all. But mostly, I didn't like the fact I had to smooth the ruffled feathers of a concerned bus driver. That was a potential false neglect call waiting to happen. It may happen anyways for all I know.
I knew I would have to pick my daughter up on Monday, and so went in the Office, but the Principle was "too busy" to see me. No problem, I knew she didn't like me to begin with since the last meeting I was treated like cr*p. I asked the receptionist for her email. I got it with a smile. (I have no idea what the previous evilcouncilor had noted or written in those private files in her report, as I can only access an abridged report becuase I don't have a high priced lawyer, but since then, I never got a decent attitude out of any staff at school. God I wish I had the money for expungement!)
In walks my daughter with this little kid leading her not by the hand, but by the wrist, with my Daughter in tow. She was having trouble keeping up, being pulled along faster than her hypotonia (low muscle tone) could barely keep pace with. She could have easily fell or worse. And this was a little kid. When the kid saw me look at my Daughter in surprise, he immediately assumed I was the Father, placed her hand in mind and took off. There were four other adults in that office, Parents waiting for their kids, and one other was male. What if he looked at her in surprise instead of me? The receptionist smiled at me and nodded, noting I got the right kid.
In my email, I wanted two solutions to these issues. If there are no adults to escort my daughter to the front office when I pick her up, I am to be given a visitor's pass, or my wife, and we pick her up directly from the classroom. And that nowhere is she to go unsupervised anywhere on the property without an adult. For the hygiene issue, discussing my Daughter's private plan of care out in the open is a violation of her rights to privacy. I am requesting that it doesn't get discussed in public anymore and to contact the parents from here on out if there are concerns. (I will tell them to put it in her IEP from now on, but it's in her Medical Records which they have a copy of at the school, she is 24/7 supervised by an adult.)
I CC'd it to the Superintendant, whom I know to be a fair man, whom I talked with on the phone before when those other false charges were levied against me with the evilcouncilor. He is after all, elected, and he doesn't want any blemsihes during his tenutre. When last I was a micrometer from going to his opponent with my case that made his School System look bad indeed, he did his best to make sure the evilcouncilor never again had anything to do with us or meetings or with our other daughter she interrogated illegally.
I know trouble is coming. I made requests that were not extensive or unreasonable. I missed the Principle's call today but got her message, I will be here tomorrow for the call as I know what time it's coming. Guardianship is all ready done for the last couple of months for my Mother and Brother, but I am in a tizzy. Our hidden camera was accidently disassembled by my autistic daughter as she found it while I was looking away. It's not reassembleable.
I am being invesitgated behind my back by the staff all ready. They are seeing issues where there are none, and when I tell them that kindly, I get a wandering eye, the backstep shuffle and shoulder facing forward. Done unconsciously while contemplating a situation does imply hidden motives that isn't pleasant. Not even making a glimpse at eye contact.
And about making our lives Hell, it's all ready there. From the moment the first knock came.
Wish us luck. We're going to need it.