Medical Inquiry

[MommysCF]

I posted the following message in the medical forum and Dazeemay was kind enough to suggest I post it here to possibly receive answers to my inquiry.
Thank you all kindly for any response!
My original post/brief story is posted under the Pennsylvania forum for anyone interested!

Posted: Sun Jan 15, 2006 11:45 pm Post subject: How does Parent Insure Children get Proper Medical Attention

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How does one get abusive treatment of their children thoroughly checked out by a physician who has morals and is not afraid to speak against CYS? My daughter continually has an ongoing, bleeding-type of diaper rash that is constantly there every week I change her during visits. It has been there for a year and a half of being in her paternal grandparents care! Meanwhile, the one month I had my children returned to me, I had her completely cleared up! Then, theres my son, just recently has diaper rash and soreness that makes no sense to me! As well, never had diaper rash in my care! Plus, my son has complained of the two, older children living in the home that the paternal grandparents are raising as well of hurting him! To go along with this, there are always bruises on his face, chest, stomach, back, thighs and shins. I was under the impression anything above the diaper line is considered abuse! Guess not in this case! Then there's my son's mic-key button that his grandmother is terrified to change! I recently video-taped myself changing it and had my parents witness the filth of it! In addition, we have a grandmother sleeping with her grandson who is about to be 4! Before that, she always slept with another grandson she is raising who is now about 16! When I had my son before this whole mess started, at 2 and a half, he never had an issue sleeping in his own toddler bed. As well, when I had him returned to me for a month, within 2 wks. he was back to sleeping in his bed! So, whats the problem with this picture? Then theres the whole potty training thing that is left by the wayside and I had my son at least starting to sit on it without a diaper by 2! Its disgusting what is happening here medically to my children and I am having a heck of a time when I get one excuse after another from the caseworker who simply adores the paternal grandmother here who was a YMCA daycare teacher! That makes no difference to me because I know the family personally; obviously if I had two children with their son who is currently in prison! They are very ill-mannered people and I am scared to death for the safety and well-being of my children in this home! I have gone so far as begging the caseworker to get them out of there and she refuses citing the fact they like to keep them in the family - makes sense since this "family" sees my children as a commodity and not as their grandchildren! Anyways, sorry for venting, but seriously, what is the best route to go to insure they are really being checked out properly! My son suffers from a fatal, genetic disease which heightens my worry for him when I cared for him 110%! Not to mention, this family shows favortism towards my daughter, who thank the Lord didn't inherit this genetic disease, but this puts my son at a greater risk considering he is medically fragile and has alot more special needs! Any advice greatly appreciated!

MommysCF (Mommys Children Forever)

[scarfyrre]

Have you documented the rashes yourself? Have you showed the CW the rashes? If she doesn't want to see them, then show her supervisor. Always take a camera and a recorder (if state law permits) to a visit.

You don't mention why the children were taken, so I don't know if that's important to what you want to know. Is there a case plan? Judgement? Where are you in the process?

Doctors are mandated reporters, so I assume 99% of them will err on the side of abuse so they don't get their butts sued and thrown in jail. If you have a lawyer, perhaps he/she knows of one with some guts.

[ejaffe]

Do you have any kind of visitation where you can just take him to a doctor on your own? If so then you get everything documented.
Our son has cystic fibrosis, and a G-tube also, so we know about the care that a chronically ill child must receive.

Just telling CPS about their poor treatment will not do anyting. Im sure it was their choice to place them with the grandmother and they would never admit they actually made a mistake. You may get better luck if you make a declaration of facts type document and send it certified mail to them. Then you have physical proof that you have made them aware of the cituation.

The entire CPS system seems to me to be an overly extreme over the top process of everyone covering their own butts. The mandated reporters call in the abuse with there may possibly be the hint of abuse to cover their butts. The investigators push for removal to cover their butts incase something happens in the future. Once in the system they all cover for eachother.
So send them something that will force them take action to cover their butts.

Just my idea anyway.