Recanting

[Charlotte]

My daughter has now told my mother that she made all of her allegations up. To say that we're blown away is an understatement. What if anything, can I do now? She's going to see a specialist this week who will be aprised of all the events. So that's documentation. No doubt, CPS will believe that I've in some way influenced her.

[Dazeemay]

This is good news.

Perhaps all of this will bring you closer together as a family. I sure hope so for your sake.

You are a great woman and mom and don't forget that.

[Frustrated]

I can relate to that. I used to recant stuff a long time ago and they said that some one influenced me or something...they said "does not matter, the records will show it is true!" They won't believe what I said was true all along...they believed on their own accord.

The CPS would believe what the Kids said all along...and that it is true.

What would you do if the Kids lied all along just to get away from following Rules?

Then what?

You see? This is a very delicate situation we were in, and my Son constantly lied because he has ADHD< ODD< etc...one of the symptoms were excessive Lying...and they believed him anyways and I lost my Parnter in that process because of the Lies.

Just gotta to live with it, and move on to the best as we can. And hope things will pass at one point to another.

[Dan Sullivan]

My daughter has now told my mother that she made all of her allegations up. To say that we're blown away is an understatement. What if anything, can I do now? She's going to see a specialist this week who will be aprised of all the events. So that's documentation. No doubt, CPS will believe that I've in some way influenced her.

Who is sending her to the specialist?

Best, Dan

[Charlotte]

My mother is sending her to a therapist for children who have RAD. She hasn't been diagnoised with this but many of her symptoms fall into this disorder. If she is not RAD, hopefully they can refer my mother to a therapist who deals with pathological lying.

[Frustrated]

refer your mother to a Therapist?

Hilarious.

Sounds like my Parents needs it too.

there is a Parent Alienation Syndrome, where you resent your Parents for running your Life, ruining your Life, etc...it would be worth check this one out.

I am there same as you, so you are not alone.

I had to divorce my Parents because they were constantly running my Life, telling me what to do, etc...it even ruined my Life with my Partner...and my Life was Hell, so I felt better when I am out of their Lives since I am an Adult now and I AM CAPABLE of raising my Children on my own and I can make my own decisions. Before all of this, my Parents had to make decisions for me and I am way too old for that. I am kind of in the Middle Age toward Mid Life Crisis, but they still managed to control my Life? Time to stop all of this, and make myself happier and move on. I actually felt better now, because I am able to make my own decisions. (Finally) and I am in Counselling help for that problem. It has been like that for 20 years, so time to pack up and live your own Life. I know and feel this is the BEST solution for everyone involved.

And now my Son who is 12, who has behavioral problems trying to do the same to me. I learned from all of this, is to leave him alone and not to control him all the time. Gotta understand and agree on same wavelengths and meet "half way" so they can also leave you alone. Ya know? Just gotta allow them to learn from their mistakes and they get to learn and grow....