Help! Case Closed - Transfer of Custody completed - MN

[bbfly73]

My three daughters were removed from my custody on 4/12/2005 for ADMITTING to smoking marijuana and having depression with mild bipolar. My 13 yr old daughter at the time was very angry with me because I wouldn't let her hang out with a friend who was a bad influence on her (sex, drinking, smoking, etc.). So angry that she called CPS and told them I smoke marijuana, now you have to understand this was 6 days after I brought her IN to Social Services asking for help because she was out of control (shoplifting, not getting up for school on time, not listening to me) They did nothing when I brought her in, but when she called from school and said I smoke marijuana and I tried to kill her by driving off the road (lie). The reason they got removed is because I was stupid and didn't know any of my rights, told the TRUTH, which was the worst thing I could have ever done. They twisted it and actually had in the paperwork that I encourage my older two girls to smoke marijuana with me (can you believe this?) Anyway, it has been a long list of unjustices, pub. def. said to do an admission, that screwed me. SS kept piling on requests after requests even when I was complying they gave a reason or another why I wasn't. It came down to a transfer of custody to the foster parents(2 Men/Foster Dads) with supervised visits 4 x a year for 2 hours and supervised phone calls, the foster parents can modify it to be unsupervised as deemed appropriate, but they are unwilling to work with me. I haven't seen my children since they were removed from me almost 2 years ago, SS never set up visits, stopped all phone contact and said I sent a porno/rape story via email to my oldest daughter (another lie), conversations were going very good. Foster parents supervised phone calls, and are they only ones to put the input to SS, they lied also. My girls now live in a world of fear, my middle one that called on me now calls me every night and wishes she could get out of there, she is scared because now they are trying to put her on an antidepressant and she is 15, has a 3.4 GPA and hasn't missed a day of school in over 2 years, tell me she is depressed considering her situation. I don't think so, she cries sometimes because she misses me and the foster parents believe she shouldn't miss me because I was such a bad parent. I'm telling you my kids were all very good kids with good grades and good manners. My middle one was just going through that terrible time we all know as teenagers where we think we know what is good for us and right when we don't. Foster parents meet with her therapist 30-45 minutes prior to every appointment. Court order states all children are healthy and there are no mental health issues. She is scared to death they are going to make her take a pill, and it could screw her all up. I went to a lawyer for legal consulatation, because my rights are not terminated, I still can request visitation to be modified (parenting time) and unsupervised. He said go through the county first because it is a $4K retaining fee. He said to have a meeting with all parties involved on the court order. The problem is that the county is not getting back to me. Foster parents say they can't violate the court order. Lawyer says he doesn't think I can get anywhere by just filing a motion and it shouldn't start there. Any suggestions anyone? Anyone have any clue where I should start, my daughters can get through this if they just can see me regularly and have a relationship with me again, I'm not requesting custody just visitation. My oldest will be 18 in Dec. 07, my middle one is 15, she is stuck for a couple more years, but if she could see me it would help get her through this tough time. She can't even have a sweet 16 b-day party with her friend, the foster p. won't let her. They keep her on lock down, but not her older sister. I work for a good company in corporate and have a good job and home. I was so stupid in the beginning when I opened my mouth, I should have never said anything, I hate myself for what has happened to my family. Email me if you have any advice. Thanks to all for your support. I don't know how we would get through this otherwise. Take Care and my prayers are with you ~ Angie

[Marina]

You may still have the ability to make medical decisions for your children.

http://www.fightcpspackets.info/Parents ... ystem.html

Do you have private health insurance for the children?

If you do, but CPS is using Medicaid for them, then that is Medicaid fraud.

http://forum.fightcps.com/viewtopic.php?t=5381

If you don't currently have private health insurance for the children, maybe you could get it for them, in order to control who the health providers are.

Assert your right to obtain medical records.

http://forum.fightcps.com/viewtopic.php?t=4872

[Frustrated]

You also need to read Foster Care Manual. It would help your situation.

Also check the CPS Manual in your State that includes Pschytropic Drugs into Children, CPS worker or Foster Care parents must ask permission to their Supervisor before releasing Anti-depressants pills on Children. It has to be approved by Psch. Doctor that evaulated your Daughter and will tell them if she needs it. (doubt it).

[bbfly73]

I just found out that the county contact I am trying to get into touch with is the supervisor for foster care licensing. I talked with my daughter last night and the foster p. were have a big party/get together at their home with family and friends. This supervisor was at this party, my daughter said, "Oh my god mom, that is one of their best friends." I can't believe what I am hearing....

[Frustrated]

Yes, it is everywhere and everyone works together are in bed together, tying Funds with each other. It is all about the MONEY!

Conflict of Interest. You just might have a Case if you can prove it.

It disgusts me when I would find out that CPS Workers having Lunches with the Judges. Disgusting!
They even meet beforehand at Lunch Meetings or at a Mediation Meetings, with CPS Lawyer, Workers, and the Judges!!

It infuriates me because now the Judge can rubber stamp their recommendations automatically. Because they are all Friends!!

Bias, Conflict of Interests, etc...etc...we need to prove it, and get them off the Case! Report to the Bench, Bar Association, anybody...Review Board...anything you can get the word across.

[jubilee]

I just found out that the county contact I am trying to get into touch with is the supervisor for foster care licensing. I talked with my daughter last night and the foster p. were have a big party/get together at their home with family and friends. This supervisor was at this party, my daughter said, "Oh my god mom, that is one of their best friends." I can't believe what I am hearing....

My daughter had an open DFS case, and I could not figure out how my ex husband family (not my daughter's father) seemed to always know about my daughter's case.
Then, as it turns out, one of the workers on the case was the step grandmother of my ex husband's wife.
Lovely.
You never know how knows who and how they know them and what under the table conversations are being had.
Maybe step grandma wasn't telling them anything, but maybe she was. Who knows?

Good luck to you.

Betty

[Frustrated]

I am sure that there are illegal information sharing with the Third Parties and "out there" with their comprades, friends, relatives, whatever happens ALL THE TIME.

We got the information who called us in was a Friend of my Hubby's who happened to be the Husband of the Worker's. (his Wife is a Worker). She happened to tell her Husband about what was going on and we would hear of this from the Husband as he is also friends with us. We finally got the Name who called it in.

You see? They do illegal information sharing which is a breach of their Rules according to the CPS Manual and the Privacy Rights Law due to Confidentiality.

WHO KNOWS JUST HOW MANY INFORMATION WAS told everywhere? Including Foster Parents. They seem to know everything about each Family's Records, right down to the Court Appearances and events even Medical Records.

[rlfroo]

Frustrated,

Foster parents do not get as much information as you think. I am one and know from personal experience. We do know when the next court proceeding is, usually. The courts send us a form letting us know if the child needs to be there or not and also to provide them information about the child. We rarely get past medical history on a child, and what and if we get it, is very minimal. But think about it. We should have their medical records, we are caring for them and getting them their regular check-up's and shots etc. How could we provide them with the best medical care possible, if we have no information about them? Such as shots, allergies, drug exposure etc. I know some of you have had horrible experiences with foster parents, but not all of us are bad. There are so many times I found things out way too late, about parents, that if I knew in the start, I could have helped them so much. But we are not privy to that information. CPS lies to us to about information. If the foster parent has any worth they don't judge. Each case is different. Accept and love the person not what they are being accused of as one never knows what the truth is. We are here to support and help reunite families and the more information we have, we can and are willing to help. Me personally I want to know as much as possible. It helps so much in mentoring the parents. I am working with a family now that we have such a great realationship. We come from two different worlds, yet we have one thing in common, this little person that I am temporarily caring for. I think this family will be successful because we talk so openly about everything. Thanks for listening.