i have to say this, i am a person who has been dealing with dfacs/cps since august 2006. i did not get a caseplan until feb 15, but i had my children returned to me on oct 4, with the stipulation that dfacs would open a saftey plan for me. well like i said i never got one, i never even got a worker until thanksgiving and then she was fresh out of college with no real grasp of my case...she had the nerve to show up at my door and ask me questions that i had been answering since august. i had not felt good that day, it was two days before thanksgiving, she had just told me that my daughter would not be able to spend thanksgiving with her daddy and that i would not be able to see him on our 12th anniversary, needless to say, she was not happy when she left my house. i told her straight up that i am sick and tired of answering the same questions and that is she wants an answer she needs to go back to the office, pick the folder up that they call my case and read it before she ever sets foot in my house again.
she has yet to come back to my house, i have a new caseworker now, she is one with a little bit of experience and treats me with respect and does not tell lies in court, which is rare from what i have read and heard from other people in my community.
it is not that a caseplan is hard, some caseplans are unrealistic. example: you have a mother with three kids and a 74 iq, which is borderline deficiant. they want this mother to receive counseling during normal business hours, attend parenting classes, hold down a job and maintain housing by their standards. how can a woman who is probably only making min. wage going to do all that? it would take all that she had to make ends meet just on her own? add child support in on all this? what can she do other than get another job and miss those counseling sessions?
i have read the manual over and over again, they say the case plan should be within the parents means and not interfer with their ability to work. again explain to me if you work during their normal business hours how this will not interfer with a job.
feasability of a plan is what is hard to follow. my plan is a family plan with nothing really on it that i dont already do. i have the school and doctors on my side, even some dfacs workers from other counties have helped me get my case going.
i need to add also, i was too a foster parent, i had the same delusions that i was helping, but that all blew up in my face. i have never seen a group of women turn on you like they have done me. i have worked with some for over 4 years, but the min something comes up, it is like being the only rooster in a hen house full of horny hens, they will rip each other up to shreds and it aint pretty...
i also agree with good dad, what has clouded my case is the psycho mumbo jumbo. it is based on "ifs" and what "ifs". the basis of my case is my niece age 12 has accused my husband of having sex with her, not having sex with her, having sex with her. he is currently the 3 man she has accused along with 4 boys in her class. she has a long history of public mastrabations dating back prior to living me (age 4, she moved in with me at age
and a long history of behavioral problems. my husband was has been the only stable male influence in her life since my father died. her father is in prison for child molestation. they have no physical evidence only psychologicals that say if he did it he will do it to his daughter and to the other niece. if, i keep hearing, if, and err on the side of the child. i keep asking what about our natural child, what is anyone doing for her....who is erring on the side of my family?
i am beating a dead horse here, but this is my way of venting....
i can woulda, coulda, shoulda all day long, but the fact is that if anyone coming to visit my house could have done it too, if my husband had done it, he would be dead, should i be locked up for murder because i said if...
cps in most states in my opinion are taking 1950 morals and applying them to 2007 life. they want the leave it beaver mom and dad in 2007.