Picked up my youngest son from school today, and he says he was interviewed. He has a letter from a CW telling me to contact her by Thursday to discuss a "report of neglect or abuse". Same old crap. It includes her phone number and name and of course, address of the main office.
I am in full-blown panic attack mode.
I need to calm down, and I need solid advice as to what to do next, please!
He is 10 and very mature/smart... (my son).. he said there didn't seem to be any pattern to her questions, i.e. no "focus" on one issue above another. Just the generic "do you get enough to eat?, do you get left alone, do your parents do drugs, does anyone beat each other up, does anyone touch you inappropriately, who watches you when you are not with your parents", that sort of thing. He said she tried to "trick" him into saying he was left alone, by first asking "are you ever left alone" and after he said no (he isn't!) then asking "so who do you stay with when you are left home?" (he's not!). He seemed to find her rather daft.
She tape recorded the interview and he says she had someone with her who largely remained quiet.
My eldest (15) goes to the same school (charter school) but was not there today to be questioned due to seasonal allergies. Ironically, the school nurse who is a close personal friend of the family was not in either... too bad because she would have been all over the CW.. she's BDTD herself with her own 2 kids. One of the reasons we initially bonded!
We cannot figure out who reported, but have it narrowed down to 2 possibilities: someone at the school (not so likely) or my SO's ex (highly likely).
A summary of our background:
My SO an I have a "blended" family and we are a same-sex family (please DON'T START on that). Two kids each, they are 2 teens and a 10 year old and the only girl who is pre-K aged.
My SO had dumb vindictive unfounded reports before we met (made by hateful ex's) and since we've been together there have been more dumb vindictive reports (her ex and an ex friend of ours), lotta nonsense and BS, total of five investigations in five years, 4 unfounded.
About the one, it was actually a "finding" against my SO's son. I don't know if they make a distinction as to who the "perpetrator" is but if they do, then neither adult was named as such... and since he was 10 at the time it was not prosecuted legally and so there might be a file naming him as "perp" but I don't know.
You can search my username for details but basically he was 10, my son was 5, there was inappropriate contact and as SOON as we were told (by my son) we separated and lived apart for several months, got them both in counseling, cooperated with CPS for a whole year, did nothing w/out their approval, and the case was closed.
That same child (my SO's son) does not currently live here and is living w/his godmother (he's a teen now)... because of behavioral problems, but nothing has happened since the occurrence 5 years ago and we have never ever let them be alone together. Every false BS since then has focused on that issue, of course.
Anyway, that's along story which I can go more into if needed but we suspect this call might have come from my SO's ex, who is part of the long story, kidnapped the youngest for a year and made a big CPS mess and we didnt' get her home with us until last summer. He has been absent and made no contact since January?? but wouldn't put it past him to make a report, and since my kids are in the same school they were in the last time we had CPS contact they knew right where to go.
Oh and i am FUMING because I am 99.9% certain that last year I gave the school a letter informing them that my kids were NOT to be interviewed without my presence and at minimum I MUST be called first! We have 3 cell phones in this family plus home phone plus email and I had to hear this from my son after school today!??
We have moved and have had a blissful year of peace and now this. I don't think I can take it. I just don't know what to do next because I cannot think when this happens. A previous CW was a nut job and told my kid and my so's kid that they'd be "taken away" if they didn't talk to her, and they are totally terrorized about CPS now. The most recent CW we had was involved due to my SO's ex, and she KNOWS all about him and how he is crazy and harassed us and kidnapped the child, do y'all think there is ANY point contacting her?
Should we meet with this newest? Or send mail? Or?
I have some serious concerns about them wanting to interview the 4 yo alone. She is VERY prone to "pretending". Just 2 nights ago I walked by her room and heard her crying, so I went to see why, and she insisted that *I* had pushed her in the hallway! Swore up and down. So that scares me, because ya never know what she'll say.
We're in TX btw.
at the grocery store, because that would be your only time off work. or yet offer her a weekend appointment. Most Workers don't like working on weekends and wants to relax at home themselves. Heck even offer Friday at 6 PM. They look really forward to go home.
Just tidy up the paperwork as best as you can in a straight form. That's all. It does not have to be exact perfect...unlike those Workers who seek perfectionism. 
They do this so the people will get off guard and wonder who it was. Always check the phone number first before answering. They were counting on people to pick up the phone when the phone shows "unknown" or "private". It is a trick they use to make people pick up the phone. It happened to me few times so I am so glad I had caller display eh? We all could use some advance warnin, eh? Don't you wish you can put a band on the child at school where the child can beep you at home letting you know that CPS Worker is coming and talking to them, and asking questions? That way, you can go to the School immediately and ask what is up? It will catch them off guard. That's for sure.