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eyeq181
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What to do? lost

Postby eyeq181 » Tue Mar 04, 2008 11:51 pm

over a month ago my kids were removed from kinship, for something that has nothing to do with us or our current case.

I am not sure if we are suppose to have any kind of contact, no one has told me otherwise. Nor will call me back.

Well my sons foster dad got him a cell phone, so he could contact me when he needed to. My son who is into skateboarding, cartoons, music and his friends, started texting me.


All about how he just lost his virginaty in the butt, and that he was gay and went into detail. Now this is messed up.

I called the police and they took a report, and said that the text were very graphic for his age. I know for a fact that my son was a virgin a month ago.

I have tried numous times to get into contact with our caseworker. But not one respone in over a week.

We would like to know about our other kids too.

This is a parent's worse nightmare.

At least the police thought it wa pretty serious. And wrote down everything word for word. And told me that if my son eregay he wouldn't tell me in such detail.

What else can I do? any suggestions
Parents spend so much time teaching our kids not to go with strangers or talk to strangers, and no to show your body to strangers. And this is what CPS-DHS is all about.

eyeq181
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Postby eyeq181 » Sun Mar 30, 2008 11:27 pm

things went from bad to worse over night.

I was found not to be bi-polar through there examine. The doctor even said why don't I have my kids home.

But how did they get worse. Well my husband went nuts, bi-polar. He is now in the hospital for a 3 day observation to correct his medications. He got worse when my daughter ended up in the hospital for a week at thier neglect. He tries to kill himself every few months, and last night he tried to kill me and was almost successful. I should have reported it to the police but I didn't out of fear. And knowing that he will get better with the right medications.


All I want is a divorce but that will look unstable in thier eyes, not the fact that my kids have been moved 6 times in 45 days.

I really don't know what to do.
Parents spend so much time teaching our kids not to go with strangers or talk to strangers, and no to show your body to strangers. And this is what CPS-DHS is all about.

Kenneth2816
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Postby Kenneth2816 » Sat Apr 05, 2008 10:30 pm

I've read both your posts. First about your son. The Police are correct in that a kid generally does NOT disclose something like that to a parent of their own free will, especially by text message.

Depending on how old he is, the physical act may or may NOT have been by his consent. This also depends on the age of the other party. Same age sexual activivity is not a crime, and most states place a 3-4 year age difference, with one kid (the perpetrator) being 10 years old or more.

Second. If you are serious about your husband almost killing you, you have more serious issues.

As to your son, what it initially sounds like to me is sexual abuse; either bny maybe an older kid also in foster care or an adult. Kids dont know how to "report" these things, and maybe your son was telling you in this manner because it was "safer" than face-to-face, or with another person. I would follow up with the Cops. I would get the name of the person or persons assigned to sexual abuse cases. I would NOT talk to the foster Dad about it. You can also call your State law enforcment. In my state they are called State Bureau of Investigation. They are mandated to investigate all allegations of sexual abuse in any sort of out-of-home placement as well as day cares. Again, dont know about your state.

I would not say anything to CPS at all. The thing to do, and do as soon as possible, is to have him taken to a medical examiner.

The other possibility is your sonis acting out his damaged emotions in some way- I cannot say nor can you or anyone until he is given a physical. rectal tissue is very very easily damaged and anal penetration is easily verified, most of the time.

I am surprised the Cops have not taken the matter more seriously, or have they? What do they say?

Listen, I know all about Bi Polar, inside out backwards and forwards. "Almost killing" a person is criminal and I don't care what the circumstances are. You may in fact show MORE stability if you leave this person while you can.

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katgotsteve
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Postby katgotsteve » Sun Apr 06, 2008 9:01 am

kenneth
i was reading your post about the rectal tissue being easily damaged and verifiable. i had someone, a forensic psychologist, tell me different, but she was also trying to get me to turn on my husband. she told me if anal peneration had taken place no one would ever know becuase it heals so easily, of course my pediatrician told me the complete opposite.
i just wanted to point out how easily even the physical or lack of physical evidence can be switched around in anyone favor.

Kenneth2816
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Postby Kenneth2816 » Thu Apr 10, 2008 6:39 am

Well...............so much for "experts". I guess one could find enough to hire an expert who would testify either way huh?

eyeq181
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Postby eyeq181 » Sat Apr 12, 2008 2:20 am

My husband going off the deep end is not normal for him under and circumstances. And I have had to toss every emotion I ever had. He couldn't afford the medication he was prescribed even though he makes $80,000 a year, because the state wants it all. It's not hard to understand why he was trying to end it all either. He was working eighty hours a week, and I was forced to go to work a second job. And still a $1 hamburger was out of or price range. We can't afford to live, and are losing our home, our furniture, and our utilities not because of a high priced attorney, but because they want more than what we make for child support. We had to close out our retirement, savings and bank accounts. We went into to debt with payday loans, just to pay the high child support they are garnishing from our paychecks. When your paychecks go from $3000 after health,dental. eye insurance, retirement, taxes to a whopping $25 every 2 weeks. It does something to you. I don't even see my paychecks to take it all and want more.
On top of that your kids get hurt all the freaking time.
One kid has had stitches twice once in his head, and once in his face. Same child can't fully breath correctly cause they screwed up, and then said he has asthma without a doctor diagnosis. But in turns they neglected to take him to the doctor when he was sick. They have exposed him to things that are so harmful to him, and nearly killed him. They tried to deny it later, but we have the medical proof.
Another kid, got brutally beaten in there care, held down and peed on. Ended up in the hospital and had to have surgery to fix they damage they did on her when I denied some unnecessary dental work they went ahead and did. She has also suffered great humiliation when she got lice from their shelter, it took for ever to get rid of by the way. And we denied them to give my daughter a hair cut for 2 main reasons. 1. We were trying to grow it out. 2. She will cut it herself within a week after she gets it cut. Well they went ahead and did it and she cut it herself.
Now my oldest so has been denied clothing and personal items based solely on the fact that they don't support the collage football team here. And has had to deal with his own humiliation. I did report the text messages to the police, but they blew it off, and told CPS to investigate it. They also dismissed my sons IEP and now are trying to figure out why he is failing. Duh he's dyslexic.

Shouldn't they at least listen to us. Don't we have rights to our children we didn't give up full custody only temporary custody? Seriously what decisions do we have to make in our kids lives. They have managed to take anything that was normal about my kids and mess it up.
Parents spend so much time teaching our kids not to go with strangers or talk to strangers, and no to show your body to strangers. And this is what CPS-DHS is all about.

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Postby anxiousmom » Sat Apr 12, 2008 9:37 am

Just a thought....maybe your son didn't text you the message...maybe someone else used his phone to mess with you?

I can't imagine all your children have gone through!!!! I just can't imagine that the responsible parties have not been held responsible for what they have suffered.

I hope you sue when this is all over with. Also, your children can sue once they turn 18.

eyeq181
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Postby eyeq181 » Sun Apr 13, 2008 10:46 pm

That is what he says, but yet he was exposed to that kind of stuff in general. It's not like at school with his peers, but with another child he has to live with.

Yes we are planning on suing. Our attorney just can believe all the stuff that has happened to our children, it's like living somewhere lost in hell. And they blow it all off as children playing with children.


It will take 3 kids a lifetime of private therapy with a private councilor just to be able to live with what these people have done.

The way I see it is these people are suppose to protect our children, but instead they got to witness what it's like to look into there own killers eyes right before they die. That is the trauma a 3 tear old experiences when they are ripped away from a loving stable environment.

Not only that if we don't sue they will do this to many more families without thinking twice. And that is one of main goals.
Parents spend so much time teaching our kids not to go with strangers or talk to strangers, and no to show your body to strangers. And this is what CPS-DHS is all about.


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