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[mschris1128]

hi all, my name is christina i live in PA. in april of this yr my 15yo daughter made allegations of sexual abuse against my husband, who has taken care of her since she was 9mos old. my daughter lied since she learned to talk especially when she was going to get in trouble for something she did. First i will take it back to 2004, when my daughter was 8yo. she was in school and got caught stealing money from a classmate. the teacher told her that she was going to call me and thats when she got scared. she told the school that my husband would chase her around with butcher knives and also another off the wall story about her older sister that lives in california but she doesnt talk to her because i dont get along with her. she DOES NOT have an older sister. i tried to explain to the school how my daughter makes up stories to try and get the focus off of her when she does wrong but they wouldnt listen. they contacted the police and cys and had me and my daughter escorted to a crisis center where they then questioned her and me about what she said. cys then removed my daughter from my care. over the course of a few months we were investigated constantly. i took my daughter to a child psychiatrist which cys told me i had to do. the dr evaluated my daughter and told us that she has borderline personality disorder and a very overactive imagination. after a yr cys then sent me papers saying the abuse she claimed was "unfounded'.

in november 2010 my daughter decided to steal someones prescription medication, clonipin, and snorted them. my husband, who never yells at my children flipped out on her and she started crying. upset and totally wacked out of her mind on this pills she told my brother in law that my husband "touches" her. she later that night admitted she lied because she was mad about getting yelled at and punished. nothing was said again until this april. this time she was caught doing drugs and having sex. she had hickies all around her neck and knew she couldnt come home looking like that so she decided to run away. thinking that if she made sexual abuse allegations against my husband would get her out of trouble and able to live at her friends house she went to her friends father with this story and he in turn took her to the police station. cys contacted me and told me about what she said so i told them that she was a liar and to check their records from 2004 which they obviously didnt do.

last week was the prliminary hearing, i wasnt allowed in the courtroom because im a witness for my husband. im not sure what all happened in there because my husband has been in prison since july because of this. they mustve realized that shes a liar and the DA contacted our attorney yesterday and told him that they were gonna drop the 19 charges of 50 counts each and want him to take a plea of child endargerment. that court date has not been set yet. there is so much to the story what cys has done to me and said to me in the past few months that ill b typing forever. but what my question is, is that if he takes this misdeanor plea does that mean i cant sue? sad to say this and maybe some people dont understand it but i also plan to file suit against my daughter for false accussations so when she turns 18yo she would not get her trust fund. this has really crippled my family financially, mentally and physically. including my 6yo son who has never been away from his father. im not sure what to do at this point but i do know i feel like a victim through all of this and i want someone to pay for this crime against my family. i think its totally unfair for a child to make these kind of filthy allegations out of spite and gets to walk away without any consequences

[monkette31]

I would advise, based on what you have said, to not have your husband cop to anything he didn't do. That's the way the criminal system works, they try to grind him down so that he feels good and they still get a conviction. Daughter sounds like she needs serious help and being away from the family sounds like it is best until she grows up and gets better. At minimum, your daughter sounds like a sick person that needs help. Criminal cases from what I hear are much better than dcfs cases, if he didn't do anything then I don't think he will be convicted especially since they have to show proof. DCFS/CPS never has to prove anything.

I think a parent is responsible for a minor's actions financially and I'm not sure you can sue a trust fund. If it is not an irrevocable one maybe you can get it broken based on her behavior. Maybe try to have her under conservatorship when she hits 18 and maybe her trust can pay for the help she needs.

[mschris1128]

thank you! ive insisted on cys getting her psych evaluation immediately. they told me to write my concerns on a piece of paper i signed to give up temperary custody, along with drug, std and pregnancy test. they waited over a month, until when my daughter was caught with drugs and cutting herself in the foster home. noone seemed to listen. my daughters biological father had several mental disorders and i insisted on them getting those medical records, which they did not. he commited suicide when she was 3yo

[GuyForcheese]

I'm truly sorry to hear about the massive ordeal your family has been through...ther was a very similar case in Dallas newspapers a few years ago, entitled, "Lies That Bind"...and even though the girlf FINALLY fessed up in court to making false allegations it was already too late for the dad...he'd already had his criminal trial and because of the girl's (his step-daughter) lies he was going to be in prison for quite a while...she finally admitted lying at juvenile court hearing after she figured out she wouldn't get to live at mommy's how, but foster care instead...I guesse some kids just don't get the message in the story about the "Little Boy that Cried Wolf"...

Here's CPS' thing...they think ALL paernts are guilty..just couldn't PROVE it and you're daughter wasn't mentally ill or dishonest..IT WAS YOU (according to them) that was just being co-dependent of your husband and allowing him to molest her..which makes you the worst sort of parent in their eyes...if only all parents would just be like them...what a wonderful world it would be?!??! ....THAT is ESSENTIALLY what these narcissitic FIENDS think of any parent that is even suggested to have even accidentally harmed their child!

...and when they're burning in HELL for what they do to innocent peopl...I'll be passing out sticks and marshmallows to everyone so they can enjoy the fire...LOL

[mschris1128]

ill be doing more with those sticks. im firing our lawyer tomorrow. hes already charged us $7000 and he hasnt done anything but go to a preliminary hearing and wants $4000 more before this is over. i spoke with a master judge?? something or another in our county, hes the head of juvenile court and cys. he is highly upset with the way this case has been going and how much we are being charged. hes gonna take this on himself. the investigating detective on this is a cop that my husband has had alot of run-ins with in his teens when he was just a rookie. he could never catch my hub or pin him with anything, although it was minor stuff for fighting & disorderly conduct. he had my hub served with a warrant way before the preliminary hearing telling the judge that my hub was suicidal, so they locked him up. given that info to, now our new lawyer, he said my hub should have had a psych evaluation to determine if he was in fact suicidal, which he was not & should not have been sitting in prison all this time. his bail still has not been lowered from $200,000. i really believe this cop has a personal vendetta against our entire family. my brother in law is in prison also, for a traffic violation. when i went online to check all of his charges, i went back 5 yrs and on more than half of all his charges until, the arresting officer just so happens to be this douche bag. one good thing about the preliminary hearing was that our attorney caught the so called detective shaking his head yes & no to my daughter while she was being cross-examined and made it a point that he was caught, asking him what he was doing? coaching the so-called victim? did i mention that this sorry excuse of a man only became detective 2wks prior to these allegations being made and that this was his first case? he really jumped the gun on this. including the grand jury precedings. he has approached me twice in the begining. he will not attempt to speak to me now. i caught him sitting at the end of our street so i called his office and informed him that that was harassment and the next time i see him i will be taking pictures or video taping him & the next time he wanted to speak to ANY of my family members he needed to contact our attorney. he didnt like that too much cause then my mom-in-law & bro-in-law were served with subpoenas for grand jury, but not me, wonder why? maybe because my testimony wouldve blown this case out of the water & he wouldve looked like a fool. i wonder how he can sleep at night & how he feels now that his 1st big case was a flop. im going to try and get that misdemeanor charge withdrawn too. i will be speaking to the guy tomorrow, ill know more then.