lostintranslation wrote:Post reuinification services would be needed to help the family restrengthen their ties and deal with issues that have come up DUE TO THE KIDS BEING OUT OF THE HOME. It is the most traumatic event a parent will ever go through besides the death of a child.
So, what would that look like? I'm wondering just because I, personally, would want them (cps) out of my life after I got my kids back. I believe I would be able to handle things on my own, and I can't imagine what they could possibly offer me that would help after hurting us so.
lostintranslation wrote:No we don't propose that the foster parents throw their hands up and walk away. That is ridiculous. What we want is reform and better policing of the foster parents. CPS will believe anything the children say negatively about the birth parents (and cps will blow it out of proportion). Yet, when the children say something against the precious foster parents, the complaints fall on deaf ears. Why is that? Can you answer that?
I think it goes both ways, but you just don't see it. I have known of and heard of many a foster home shut down by allegations, true and false. They even hold classes for foster parents on how to document everything and what to do when falsely accused. You seem to be under the impression that foster parents get some sort of a free pass. I'm here to tell you that simply isn't true. I can also tell you that CPS hates me because I have caused them total grief. I don't sit by and take things. When I see wrong things occur I stnad up for what I believe and I take it all the way to the top (with copies).
lostintranslation wrote:A good start in the reformation is that the foster parents grow some guts and speak up about the faults in the CPS system. If people that are positively directly involved withe CPS speak up, they may be heard better than embittered parents (the name cps likes to call us renegades).
Oh, believe me, they do indeed hear from me, and they have some much better names for me!:wink:
lostintranslation wrote:I haven't attacked you nor your intelligence but you seem to want to question mine. A civilized debate is one thing but you inferring that I don't know what I'm talking about is slightly offensive. I have done nothing but ask you clear cut questions and addressed certain issues without attacking you personally. I just hope you are open minded and open hearted enough to try to recognize what us birth parents go through during this process. I am willing to discuss this further with you unless you chose to attack me personally. I can not speak for others nor can I say you won't be attacked by others but I will not do that. Nothing is accomplished with personal attacks or insults.
Where exactly did I infer you don't know what you're talking about? I answered your questions in the same civil manner in which they were presented to me. I have not attacked you personally or otherwise. You obviously live somewhere I don't and there is a discrepancy between the regulations where you live and where I do. There also seems to be a discrepancy between our areas regarding things such as post reunification services and such. To state so is not an attack. When I get irritated is when people make blanket statements regarding services or foster parents or birth parents. There is much that is different about every state, every county, every foster home and every birth home. One simply cannot make a blanket statement and expect me to give it much credence.