foster parent hindering reunification

[stacymarks]

I have posted on here in other places regarding this same case. A question for anyone: have you ever experienced a fosterer that has hindered the reunification process? we have recently found out that the foster parent has a say in the return home plan? how can this be? why is she involved, who can we complain to? this is getting rediculous. We just want our son home, NOW. Help.

[Marina]

Go to Child Welfare Information Gateway, and do a search for "reunification."

http://www.childwelfare.gov/index.cfm

There may be something useful in there to use as strategies.

[Frustrated]

Did you talk to your Lawyer?

Do you have any proof of paper work that she is intending to interupt with your "Return home" plan? If I were you, I would tell my Lawyer to write a motion to the Judge to tell the Judge that they are violating the Order.

Keep all evidence of their intentions and be one step ahead of them. It is most likely that CPS Worker told the Foster Parent to go ahead and interrupt your Plan but then again, the Foster Parent has her own intentions to adopt, and she would be willing to do anything to put a stop to it.

Don't let it happen. Keep fighting until your Son comes home. He deserve a Father that loves him. She is pretty selfish I would say and not in BEST INTERESTS of the Child but her owns. Make sure the Judge is AWARE of THIS "Best Interests of the Child" and you can use that against her.

[stacymarks]

thanks for your posts. my husband did get ahold of his attorney today. I would love to put the letter he physically took to his attorney yesterday. i think it says it all.

Visitation Agreement / Reunification schedule # 4.



I received the 4th Transition calendar via email from ***
(PCIT) on Dec.18, 2006. I agreed to this as I had agreed to the
previous 3 Transition Schedules that were dismissed as not usable by
Fred Pfistner. Also on Dec 18th while discussing this schedule with
*** I explained that the foster parent Sharon Christenson
had told me that Ralph would be with her for the weekend and with me
on Monday the 25th and then returned home there after. ***
did a 3-way phone conference with my caseworker Travis Aragon who
explained to me that this was not true and that Ralph was in deed to
be with me as agreed to in the transition schedule 4th addition.



On Friday the 23rd I contacted Fred Pfistner and ***** to
verify the pick up location at 2:30pm.

I left a message for Fred and spoke to *** regarding the pickup
location. ****** was not sure as some unknown decision had not
been communicated to her or to me.

Mr. Pfistner returned my call with ester Patric in a 3-way conference
call explaining to me that the 4th transition schedule was not
expectable for the foster parent or for him. Mr. Pfistner explained
that even though he has told me that Ralph is coming home and that the
community review board has approved a return home for Ralph, Because I
do not have a court order stating that Ralph is coming home his
position is to side with the foster parent and that it is the
departments position to foster the current placement and bond with the
foster parent and not with me. He also explained that the foster
parent had already made plans and mine were not as important because I
did not have a court order. He told me he was sorry that my case
worker Travis Aragon had not informed me of the change on Thursday the
22nd after there meeting rejecting the transition schedule.



I called my attorney David Israel and left him a message after this
conversation and explained what Mr. Pfistner had told me.



E***** (Bethany Christian Services) called a while after this
conversation trying to work out a resolution to this grievous error of
the departments Mr. Pfistner was on 3-way also. I explained that I had
called my attorney. Mr. Pfistner explained that there was nothing me
or my attorney could do at this time. He said the State had dropped
the ball and that I had to work it out with him now. Ralph was staying
with the foster parent for the weekend because of his bond with her.
He asked me what I wanted. I demanded that my son be at my home on
Christmas as I had already made plans for the weekend too, following
the transition Schedule I had agreed to, that were know ruined. As it
stands under duress I agreed to have Ralph from Monday the 25th at 9:00
am to Friday the 29th at 5 pm at which time he would be returned to
the foster parent at north gate.



There was no child care set up for this type of visit and I am missing
work on Tuesday the 26 because of this change in the schedule and
excessive lack of planning on the department’s part.



I am disgusted with Mr. Pfistner lack of professionalism and planning.
The PCIT that was requested at the CASA's insistence
was for the purpose of my family bonding with Ralph. Mr. Pfistner's
decision to change the schedule at the last minute shows no desire to
follow through with any of the PCIT recommendations and is following
an agenda not disclosed to me as of yet and is in favor of the bonding
of my son with the foster parent and not with me or with Ralph's
reunification back into my home. I say this because as I see it Mr.
Pfistner has lied to me. After the Community Review hearing He told me
that only my attorney could set a court date to change the court order
to return home for Ralph. During his side stepping of kicking his well
placed ball in my face he stated that any member of the department
involved with this case could set the court date to change the court
order but they had not chose to do it.



I am completely disgusted and angry with Mr. Pfistner handling of the
reunification process. Also with his changing of every thing I agree
to with |***** and Travis Aragon in regard to the reunification
process.



I refuse to continue participating in any PCIT because of this
behavior and I also refuse to participate in Janet Browns program of
facilitating visitation between Ralph and Sharon Christenson after
Ralph is returned home because the state chooses to strengthen there
bond as apposed to ending it.

Hopefully that rattled some cages. |I am so tired of all of this..

[Momof31995]

We also had a few sets of foster parents who tried to keep us from our kids.

the first decided that canceling the visits would keep them away so we went to the supervisor and the children were moved to the second set who tried through the courts to lie to the judge and forced our oldest to write a letter to the judge saying she didnt like us and didnt want to live with us anymore.....my Public defender was a bulldog and saw right through it and had the letters thrown out and then the fosterers decided if they couldnt adopt the kids they were going to have them removed.

So they seperated my son into a different foster home from his sisters and it was the best thing they could have done.after being with the 2 families for only a few months the kids were returned to us and now on Dec. 4th our case was closed by the Judge and our kids are truly finally ours again.

after 3 years of hell i now know my rights and i will be damned if those blood suckers will ever see the inside of my house again.

[momomma]

So are the foster parents keeping you from visiting your son and having your time with him? You're well on your way to reunification?

It sounds like, if this is true, they have to much power. And why is DFS letting them get away with cancelled visits?