Just wondering...
Posted: Thu Sep 18, 2008 8:12 am
I am just wondering if i handled this situation correctly or if i overreacted...
on 08/25/2008, my niece's father was released from prison for aggravated child molestation. it is a wound that i thought i was over after 11 years, but it opened it up again. my brother was his 14 y/o victim.
last week one of her teachers asked her if she had talked to her daddy, if she missed him, if she has called him or if he called her, etc. i was offended by this for several reason, 1. my niece was 6 months old when he went to prison 2. she doesnt know him as her father 3. the teacher had no right to discuss such a delicate subject with a child 4. my niece is the only one of her siblings/half siblings who does not have any type of mental disorder (bipolar/schzhophrenia) and i want to keep it that way 5. as her legal guardian, it is my choice and my right to allow to visit, i have been responsible for her for the past 6 years of her life and she is a child and doesnt need to think about things that are adult related, she needs to stay a child.
so i went to the school and talked to the principal/assistant principal about the situation. i was still upset. i gave him the whole story. i know that my niece's grandparents often tell people that their son went to prison for an affair with a 16 y/o boy and maybe this teacher had heard that story and thought she was doing right, but it was all a lie. my brother was 14 and a knife was used. i handed him the print out from the internet showing him a registered sexual offender and stated that aggravated child molestion doesnt not happen with consenual sex, that there is a threat of injury associated with this charge and i felt that the only person who had a right to talk to charlie was the school counselor who has been there from the beginning. and that if this teacher would have asked me or the counselor about this issue she would have been informed on the whole situation. he told me that he would take care of it.
i actually broke down and cried, i thought all of my feeling had long been dealt with, but right there i cried.
i wonder if i overreacted or if i should make sure it doesnt happen again.
on 08/25/2008, my niece's father was released from prison for aggravated child molestation. it is a wound that i thought i was over after 11 years, but it opened it up again. my brother was his 14 y/o victim.
last week one of her teachers asked her if she had talked to her daddy, if she missed him, if she has called him or if he called her, etc. i was offended by this for several reason, 1. my niece was 6 months old when he went to prison 2. she doesnt know him as her father 3. the teacher had no right to discuss such a delicate subject with a child 4. my niece is the only one of her siblings/half siblings who does not have any type of mental disorder (bipolar/schzhophrenia) and i want to keep it that way 5. as her legal guardian, it is my choice and my right to allow to visit, i have been responsible for her for the past 6 years of her life and she is a child and doesnt need to think about things that are adult related, she needs to stay a child.
so i went to the school and talked to the principal/assistant principal about the situation. i was still upset. i gave him the whole story. i know that my niece's grandparents often tell people that their son went to prison for an affair with a 16 y/o boy and maybe this teacher had heard that story and thought she was doing right, but it was all a lie. my brother was 14 and a knife was used. i handed him the print out from the internet showing him a registered sexual offender and stated that aggravated child molestion doesnt not happen with consenual sex, that there is a threat of injury associated with this charge and i felt that the only person who had a right to talk to charlie was the school counselor who has been there from the beginning. and that if this teacher would have asked me or the counselor about this issue she would have been informed on the whole situation. he told me that he would take care of it.
i actually broke down and cried, i thought all of my feeling had long been dealt with, but right there i cried.
i wonder if i overreacted or if i should make sure it doesnt happen again.