I'm new to this board - I found it while looking for others who have been subjected to false allegations of child abuse. In my case, two of my three children have been posting vulgar (almost pornographic) materials on MySpace and elsewhere. All three have had their needs ignored by their mother for years. Right after she left me, she illegally exited my eldest son from special education with neither my knowledge nor consent. I spent 3 years fighting the district and filing numerous complaints with government agencies to get them restored (all without any help from their mother). All three children are now getting failing grades - their mother has consistently shown that she refuses to help them with their homework. I could go on, and on, and on about the horrible things she has done. As a result of all of these things and more, I obtained legal custody of my children.
So, with all of these things and more, why am I posting here? Because for the past year my daughter and eldest son have gone out of control - my eldest son is a punk rocker who was involved in a riot last year and my 13-year-old daughter is posting things on the Internet that would make a sailor cringe. Not to mention their failing grades, etc. After she posted some HORRIBLE information on the Internet last fall, I had had it and tried to get the idiot school to help. Instead, they told her that I had called because of her Internet posts and she and her lovely friends immediately started making obscene calls to me.
I also retained an attorney to go after full physical custody of my youngest son and demanded that the school call CPS. They refused and I made several attempts to file too. So...instead of investigating my ex - my daughter was furious because of my efforts to stop her horrible actions (some of her MySpace accounts were removed) and she reported ME as having sexually and emotionally "abusing" her - a total and complete LIE. I learned of this just before XMAS when one of LA Counties idiot investigators, Connie Crawford, called to inform me of these false and pernicious charges. Of course, Crawford took weeks for her bogus "investigation" and, finally, after ruining my holidays, called me after Xmas to tell me that all of the charges were "unsubstantiated." Crawford also knew that I had already retained an attorney regarding custody and also told me in her voice mail that as the charges were unsubstantiated, I could now move ahead with my custody battle in court. BTW - one of my PRIMARY things I'm trying to seek is a full and complete 730 evaluation because my kids have SERIOUS problems.
Fast forward to last week. As a result of my initial court hearing, the judge refused a 730 evaluation until after a "quick" court custody investigation was done to substantiate any of my charges. It wasn't until I went in for the interview that I learned what a blatant liar Connie Crawford really is - I was told that the bogus sexual abuse charges were completely dropped BUT that some sort of unknown "emotional abuse" charges were NOT. Naturally, the court investigator had almost no information and could not provide me with a written copy of the false CPS report. I immediately contacted my attorney and also the morons from Los Angeles County. Not surprisingly, Connie Crawford was off for the week so I demanded to speak with her supervisor. Again, no supervisor was present - only an "acting supervisor" named "Robert."
Robert promised to look into the matter and get back to me. That didn't happen until today when this new moron informed me that there apparently was not some sort of "mistake" and that, according to the records he saw, some sort of charges were "substantiated." He REFUSED to tell me what those were, why Connie Crawford lied to me, or even explain why no one had ever notified me of these bogus charges - in fact, he wouldn't even tell me what they were.
I've now called my attorney and we're going to have to subpoena the LA County bastards. This is simply an OUTRAGE. I even provided Crawford with the name of a psychology I had taken my kids to who could substantiate the fact that I am the one who cares about my children and the harm my ex has done to them.
Finally, my attorney's office has told me that CPS is REQUIRED to send me a written notice if any of their bogus charges were "substantiated" but they NEVER did such a thing. I should have aslo been told about my rights to contest their false findings. Again, no such thing EVER happened.
Anyway, something needs to be done NOW to stop monsters like Connie Crawford from lying and ruining the lives of her innocent victims.
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Frustrated
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Anyway, something needs to be done NOW to stop monsters like Connie Crawford from lying and ruining the lives of her innocent victims.
Yes, I agree with that. So what kind of help are you seeking?
By the descriptions that you gave us here, as it seems like really hard rock place, like a Trout trying swimming upward the stream.
As it seems that you are dealing with hard core teenagers as understandable, and understandable how CPS works as vindicative and Liars. I can agree to that.
By your details as you described, as it seems that you wanted to know how to win against CPS, is that correct?
First of all, they can't deal where the Mother has Physical Custody of your Children and that there is a Custody battle going on, but CPS can help the Mother to do some dirty deeds on you. Telling you that everything is Ok, when it is NOT OK. That's lying, and that's one.
So you need to disprove their lying which is to prove with Evidence. You need documents that shows that your daughter has been playing games on Myspace and you need to prove that.
All you need to prove is that Sexual Abuse does not exist but you had a Concern for your Children for their behaviors.
What you need is Records of everything, School Records such as failing grades, Medical Records, Doctor Records, everything for your Defense.
And you need to court order the request for CPS to release Complete CPS Files to you so you can look it over for your own Defense. Your Lawyer can look it over to see if there are false claims against you and you can use it to disprove it by corrections/objections forms. Objections and Corrections Form Sheet can be found on Resources Board or Research Board, I forget. You can make corrections and objections to each page to what they put or wrote about you.
Yes they are supposed to write you a letter to state their findings.
They are also supposed to tell you if your Name is being put in Abuse Registry as well. Have your Lawyer find out if your Name is indeed in the Abuse Registry. Who knows? It just may be. The Rest of us names are in there already, even though if my criminal case was dismissed and thrown out in Court. Our names are in there regardless of what they say.
You have the Right to (by Law) sue some one who made false claims against you but in that case, it was your own Daughter that made that claim so it might be tougher but you can make lawsuit for CPS making false claims by lying about you. You can sue Crawford if you can prove it with CPS Files.
Yes, I agree with that. So what kind of help are you seeking?
By the descriptions that you gave us here, as it seems like really hard rock place, like a Trout trying swimming upward the stream.
As it seems that you are dealing with hard core teenagers as understandable, and understandable how CPS works as vindicative and Liars. I can agree to that.
By your details as you described, as it seems that you wanted to know how to win against CPS, is that correct?
First of all, they can't deal where the Mother has Physical Custody of your Children and that there is a Custody battle going on, but CPS can help the Mother to do some dirty deeds on you. Telling you that everything is Ok, when it is NOT OK. That's lying, and that's one.
So you need to disprove their lying which is to prove with Evidence. You need documents that shows that your daughter has been playing games on Myspace and you need to prove that.
All you need to prove is that Sexual Abuse does not exist but you had a Concern for your Children for their behaviors.
What you need is Records of everything, School Records such as failing grades, Medical Records, Doctor Records, everything for your Defense.
And you need to court order the request for CPS to release Complete CPS Files to you so you can look it over for your own Defense. Your Lawyer can look it over to see if there are false claims against you and you can use it to disprove it by corrections/objections forms. Objections and Corrections Form Sheet can be found on Resources Board or Research Board, I forget. You can make corrections and objections to each page to what they put or wrote about you.
Yes they are supposed to write you a letter to state their findings.
They are also supposed to tell you if your Name is being put in Abuse Registry as well. Have your Lawyer find out if your Name is indeed in the Abuse Registry. Who knows? It just may be. The Rest of us names are in there already, even though if my criminal case was dismissed and thrown out in Court. Our names are in there regardless of what they say.
You have the Right to (by Law) sue some one who made false claims against you but in that case, it was your own Daughter that made that claim so it might be tougher but you can make lawsuit for CPS making false claims by lying about you. You can sue Crawford if you can prove it with CPS Files.
It is easy to steal from poor people. But don't do it. And don't take advantage of those poor people in court. The Lord is on their side. He supports them and he will take things away from any person that takes from them.~ Proverbs 22:22
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Thanks for your quick response. At the moment, I've already provided the court and their child custody investigator with years worth of report cards demonstrating, conclusively, how my ex has refused to help my children with homework, how she illegally exited my eldest son from special education - including all of the formal complaints, due process hearings, court records, etc., etc. that proves all I've done for my kid while they've been ignored by their mother. FYI, I also have full legal (not physical) custody of my kids because of what she has done (and not done). In addition, my attorney just issued a subpoena for a lot of records from MySpace that show the horrible things my two eldest children have been doing. We've also asked for all e-mail addresses, posts, photos, IP addresses, etc., etc. from MySpace. I've also submitted doctors' reports, medical records, and even a letter from a psychologist who worked with my kids (and for which my ex refused to have anything to do with).
Since my post to this board just a short time ago, my attorney's office has informed me that she's sending a nasty letter to Connie Crawford and the Los Angeles County liars. Apparently, they are OBLIGATED under law to send me information about their bogus "findings" and intentionally failed to do so. I hope and pray that something can be done about this. I've got money flowing nonstop to pay for all of the legal expenses I've incurred (and continue to incur) because of my ex. This entire thing is very surreal. At this point, I would love to sue Crawford for her blatant lies to (and about) me. I do know that she did NOT contact one of the doctors who could have substantiated that lies were being told about me. That, of course, would have required that she was competent - which clearly, she was not.
Since my post to this board just a short time ago, my attorney's office has informed me that she's sending a nasty letter to Connie Crawford and the Los Angeles County liars. Apparently, they are OBLIGATED under law to send me information about their bogus "findings" and intentionally failed to do so. I hope and pray that something can be done about this. I've got money flowing nonstop to pay for all of the legal expenses I've incurred (and continue to incur) because of my ex. This entire thing is very surreal. At this point, I would love to sue Crawford for her blatant lies to (and about) me. I do know that she did NOT contact one of the doctors who could have substantiated that lies were being told about me. That, of course, would have required that she was competent - which clearly, she was not.
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Well, I do know this, that the fact that CPS does not deal with Custody Cases that are ongoing and still pending. But they do indeed help by recommending so and so for the Mother's behalf.
And the fact that Emotional Abuse is very very hard and one of the most hardest case to prove. I was, one was alleged for Emotional Abuse but they could not prove it.
Also that California is one of the WORST STATE where CPS are frivilous and malicious filing bogus cases with innocent Families. They filed about 500 bogus cases that did not exist and they are under scrutinty and under investigation for that. Plus the California CPS are the most sued in Lawsuits filed by Families, and one of the Case was won by a Mother in the punitive damages of 4.9 Million dollars.
As it seems, that you are doing everything right, and you have a Lawyer, and doing everything down to I's and crossing the T's. All you need to prove that the Mother was neglect for the welfare of your Children. For example: Not watching or supervising the Computers while the Teenagers are on it unspervised. She could have protected the Computer by blocking such things out but she didn't and even encourage this behavior. And not ensuring that the Kids do their homework, that's another thing. But the thing is we are dealing with hard core teenagers that wants to do what they want. CPS are going to claim that they are just teenagers testing their limits, calling it "rebel stage" and trying to prove that you are too harsh on them (Emotional abuse) by harping on them.
Like I said, Emotional Abuse is one of the most hardest case to prove. I am sure they are going to change allegations this time around to "something else".
Also, you can ask your Lawyer to see if your Name is being put on Abuse Registry, you can prove that they didn't notify you in the letters and by Law, they are supposed to notify you if your name is being put on Abuse Registry. You would be surprised. Almost everyone of us here names are put on Abuse Registry, even though if my criminal case was dismissed and thrown out by a Judge. They left our names on it regardless of what they say.
And the fact that Emotional Abuse is very very hard and one of the most hardest case to prove. I was, one was alleged for Emotional Abuse but they could not prove it.
Also that California is one of the WORST STATE where CPS are frivilous and malicious filing bogus cases with innocent Families. They filed about 500 bogus cases that did not exist and they are under scrutinty and under investigation for that. Plus the California CPS are the most sued in Lawsuits filed by Families, and one of the Case was won by a Mother in the punitive damages of 4.9 Million dollars.
As it seems, that you are doing everything right, and you have a Lawyer, and doing everything down to I's and crossing the T's. All you need to prove that the Mother was neglect for the welfare of your Children. For example: Not watching or supervising the Computers while the Teenagers are on it unspervised. She could have protected the Computer by blocking such things out but she didn't and even encourage this behavior. And not ensuring that the Kids do their homework, that's another thing. But the thing is we are dealing with hard core teenagers that wants to do what they want. CPS are going to claim that they are just teenagers testing their limits, calling it "rebel stage" and trying to prove that you are too harsh on them (Emotional abuse) by harping on them.
Like I said, Emotional Abuse is one of the most hardest case to prove. I am sure they are going to change allegations this time around to "something else".
Also, you can ask your Lawyer to see if your Name is being put on Abuse Registry, you can prove that they didn't notify you in the letters and by Law, they are supposed to notify you if your name is being put on Abuse Registry. You would be surprised. Almost everyone of us here names are put on Abuse Registry, even though if my criminal case was dismissed and thrown out by a Judge. They left our names on it regardless of what they say.
It is easy to steal from poor people. But don't do it. And don't take advantage of those poor people in court. The Lord is on their side. He supports them and he will take things away from any person that takes from them.~ Proverbs 22:22
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Well, my attorney sent a nasty letter to the morons with the Los Angeles County Child Support Service monsters last week and guess what? The unethical lying child abuse "investigator", Connie Crawford FINALLY returned my call (I left a message for her to call me a LONG time ago). She claimed that her incompetent and bigoted "investigation" revealed "emotional abuse" of my daughter but refused to tell me what, exactly, that was (of course, there wasn't any). I informed the sleazy Connie Crawford that she had also failed to follow the penal code by her refusal to send me a letter informing me of her blatantly false accusations. In addition, Crawford REFUSED to contact the doctor who is familiar with the situation with my daughter, etc., etc.
I've already left a message for my attorney and she's prepared to fight unethical bigoted father-haters like Connie Crawford. Monsters like Crawford belong in JAIL.
I've already left a message for my attorney and she's prepared to fight unethical bigoted father-haters like Connie Crawford. Monsters like Crawford belong in JAIL.
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Well you are not alone. My CAS Worker did the same shtick with me, claiming Emotional Harm and she won't tell me what. I told her why it took 114 days into the investigation and they wouldn't say anything. Then they refused to admit my own psch. private doctor and goes with their own CPS Psch. Doctor instead. My Psch. Doctor DISAGREED with CPS Psch. Doctor's diagnosis.
Then she refused to tell me what and what...just opened the investigation and send me a letter AFTER 114 days, whoops, wrong, 6 months later, to send me a letter saying there was Emotional Harm, but cannot back it up with such evidence because I know there was NO Evidence to back it up~!
It was the CPS Worker that called it in, because she just happened to be visiting next door to do a home visit (on another Family) and I live next door to her and she heard through the walls, and came over and told us we were too loud. HELLO!!!! I am DEAF! lol
Then saying we were swearing swear words at our son, it wasn't. It was our own Son that does all the swearing at us. She came over and told us to stop all the shtick. My partner told her to get lost and mind her own business. She called it in and made a case into an investigation which lasts more than 114 days, but I believe it was actually 6 months. 
As you know Emotional Harm was the most hardest case to prove. Because it is invisible, and mostly hearsay. NO concrete evidence to back up the claims. So they had to close the case after possibly 6 months!
Then she refused to tell me what and what...just opened the investigation and send me a letter AFTER 114 days, whoops, wrong, 6 months later, to send me a letter saying there was Emotional Harm, but cannot back it up with such evidence because I know there was NO Evidence to back it up~!
It was the CPS Worker that called it in, because she just happened to be visiting next door to do a home visit (on another Family) and I live next door to her and she heard through the walls, and came over and told us we were too loud. HELLO!!!! I am DEAF! lol
Then saying we were swearing swear words at our son, it wasn't. It was our own Son that does all the swearing at us.
She came over and told us to stop all the shtick. My partner told her to get lost and mind her own business. She called it in and made a case into an investigation which lasts more than 114 days, but I believe it was actually 6 months.
As you know Emotional Harm was the most hardest case to prove. Because it is invisible, and mostly hearsay. NO concrete evidence to back up the claims. So they had to close the case after possibly 6 months!
It is easy to steal from poor people. But don't do it. And don't take advantage of those poor people in court. The Lord is on their side. He supports them and he will take things away from any person that takes from them.~ Proverbs 22:22
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abusedfather
i think we are in the same boat. my husband has been accused of sexual abuse of a niece, of course you can read the whole story on here, most of it is in cps investigations. but they could not substaniate it but, they could substaniate failure to supervise, against who we are not sure, but since i am receiving "services" and he is not it has to be against me. so my conclusion and i asked and they did not deny is this, i am mother who worked and left three female children alone with my husband whom i trusted and still trusted for three years and half years and dfcs was in and out of our home becuase they had awarded custody of these children to us, they knew he quit his job, they approved us to be foster parents. so, all they are doing is ignoring a father's right to be a father, i feel that cps and the court system feel that man is inferior when it comes to being a parent, they insinuate that a man can not control his sexual urges and therefore not a good role model. i tell you straight up i know just as many female dogs as i do male.
my advice is hang in there and fight, the more the push the more i fight, i think they are about ready to give up on pushing me around. i also feel for you, i had three stepsons and thier mother alienated my husband out of their lives. we only have contact with one, the youngest, and he is the only one with a good head on his shoulders. you have to wait until they are older for them to figure it all out an their own, he did the other two have not. they blame their father for not coming around, one blames his father becuase he drinks and has gone to jail for drugs and weapons, so, i know how you feel. we as parents try to teach our children right and wrong, sometimes the learn, sometimes they dont, but it the long run it all choices and it comes down to them making the right ones, we can not make those choices for them. hang in there.
i have never been a religious person, but i have found my way back to church during this and have the support of family and friends. if you do have that support, please draw it close to you. this whole situation can comsume you.
also, i read an article, cant remember where, where the cps in california removed a child for emotional abuse, this mother fought it and emotional abuse is not considered anything that a child can be removed for. something about (an no i cant spell) immeniate danger. it might be something you want to read.
thinking of you and your fight always....
i think we are in the same boat. my husband has been accused of sexual abuse of a niece, of course you can read the whole story on here, most of it is in cps investigations. but they could not substaniate it but, they could substaniate failure to supervise, against who we are not sure, but since i am receiving "services" and he is not it has to be against me. so my conclusion and i asked and they did not deny is this, i am mother who worked and left three female children alone with my husband whom i trusted and still trusted for three years and half years and dfcs was in and out of our home becuase they had awarded custody of these children to us, they knew he quit his job, they approved us to be foster parents. so, all they are doing is ignoring a father's right to be a father, i feel that cps and the court system feel that man is inferior when it comes to being a parent, they insinuate that a man can not control his sexual urges and therefore not a good role model. i tell you straight up i know just as many female dogs as i do male.
my advice is hang in there and fight, the more the push the more i fight, i think they are about ready to give up on pushing me around. i also feel for you, i had three stepsons and thier mother alienated my husband out of their lives. we only have contact with one, the youngest, and he is the only one with a good head on his shoulders. you have to wait until they are older for them to figure it all out an their own, he did the other two have not. they blame their father for not coming around, one blames his father becuase he drinks and has gone to jail for drugs and weapons, so, i know how you feel. we as parents try to teach our children right and wrong, sometimes the learn, sometimes they dont, but it the long run it all choices and it comes down to them making the right ones, we can not make those choices for them. hang in there.
i have never been a religious person, but i have found my way back to church during this and have the support of family and friends. if you do have that support, please draw it close to you. this whole situation can comsume you.
also, i read an article, cant remember where, where the cps in california removed a child for emotional abuse, this mother fought it and emotional abuse is not considered anything that a child can be removed for. something about (an no i cant spell) immeniate danger. it might be something you want to read.
thinking of you and your fight always....
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