Right now, we are trying to figure out what to do. My CW wanted to know what our game plan would be for next week so that the judge would know what we wanted. She already knows that our lawyer has been trying to get us into a family support program that houses you and your entire family for up to two years so I told her that is what we are going for and she encouraged (SHOCKER!!!!!!!!!!!!!) us to work on that soon and let the judge know.
The only roadblock really is my parents. They have been out to get our kids from the get go-since it was them that called on us. We really feel betrayed. My husband and I made some bad moves on our part-but moreso because we thought we were doing the 'right' thing and took advice from people who really didn't have our best interests at heart. So now this whole situation has been a lesson learned for us. They have been saying negative things about us from the start, including lying and exaggerating things.
Here is what my CW wrote:
The caregivers stated that J.R's speech was hard to understand and somewhat withdrawn when she was placed with them. Also, according to the caregivers, the father would address J.R in a way you call a dog to come to you and the child acts like a dog even today such as whining and breathing like a dog when she wants something. The caregivers also indicated, the mother has no relationship with J.R as to this date she does not ask for the parents or act like she misses them.According to the caregivers, J.R makes statements that someone is hitting her in the face when no one is present. Also, she hits herself and calles herslef stupid. The caregiver stated she asks for beer and says she wants to smoke. J.R has nightmares and wakes up screaming and stating things such as she is bleeding in the third person. The family support worker has not observed J.R having any reservations towards her mother.
Does this not sound WAY TOO OVERDONE?
Our Family Support Worker said this
The FSW supervises the visitations for the family. She reported that it is her opinion that the children are bonded with the mother and father. J.R gives kisses and hugs to both parents and that both the mother and father both hold E.R in their laps during the visit while playing with J.R. When approaching the visit she stated J.R screams 'Mommy!'. Also, J.R interacts with her Daddy in a language only understood by the daddy and her. At the end of the visits the mother walks out to the car with FSW and J.R will scream, "Daddy, daddy!" while he is sitting on the bicycle racks.
Our daughter has never displayed any type of behavior that would cause us to be concerned that something is wrong. When she wants something, she asks for it and says please and thank you. She is always loving and playful. We have had a few visits where she has cried really bad when we had to leave. She has also told me that she misses me-in front of our family support worker!!! I belive that our child does asks for us and that my parents just aren't going to say.
My parents (and moreso my mom) have had nothing good to say about us. Everything they have to say about is negative. My mom told my aunt that she wanted us to give up our parental rights and leave Florida because she was ready for all this to be over with. My husband didn't even know my parents well-in the two months he has 'known' them they went from being nice to being unkind and have been unkind since then. But they tell lies on him like they've known him for years. They accused him of doing drugs like cocaine and meth and said we had a pipe in our house (we knew both were lies and asked them to produce the pipe. no one ever did
) and when we did our UA's he only popped dirty for weed ( I was upset about that but he had quit not too long ago so it was expected) and I had a negative.Basically we are battlign for our kids through DCF and it is a shame that my parents are so crowardly and pathetic that they couldn't file the necessary paperwork properly if they wanted to take custody of our children. I know they are committing a felony. They have slandered and embarrassed us and are now trying to say we have traumitized our daughter.
What do we say or do? i mean, it's obvious they have been trying TOO hard to make us look bad...but will the judge see it that way? I am just lost and I am scared and have been gathering everything I need to be prepared. But I need advice! It's not just DCf we're fighting here!!!
We're battling my parents!!
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